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1) A lot of your questions are in response to a certain TYPE of fangirl. I was a lot like this when I was 16. It's a fantasy at that point, and yaoi paints a picture that isn't realistic. That's what romance fiction is usually about. Girls fall in love with it, and then they want to be a part of it. This attitude, however, changes as a girl gets o......   1 reply

First of all, I think you need to calm down. It isn't that big of a deal. These are works of fiction, and if they're getting you THAT upset, then maybe it's you who needs to step away for a bit. That being said, on a superficial level, I completely understand where you're coming from. Those tropes are very common in yaoi, and I can't stand them. T......   reply

This question is going to be met with a lot of bias, so keep that in mind when you're looking through these comments. I was actually just discussing a similar issue with a friend. Despite the fact that most children are curious about sex, we like to pretend that they aren't because it makes us uncomfortable. I'm in my 30s now, but I obviously remem......   2 reply

Lmao, I totally misread this and wrote up this long answer thinking it was something else. Anyway, may as well answer the actual question, since I'm here. There's no such thing as "too old" to read yaoi. Yaoi is written for adults. That's like asking how old is too old to read Harlequin romance or watch porn. Those things are geared toward grown u......   2 reply

This is a long response, but if you actually are curious about the issue, please read on. I wish we could more freely discuss these issues as a culture without stigma and projection. Let me just start by saying that I have a complicated reaction to it on a personal level, in that it disgusts me most when the child is portrayed as enjoying what's ......   2 reply

The vast majority of my characters are LGBT+. I've never really been as interested in heterosexual romance, despite being heterosexual myself. More or less, haha. I'm more asexual than anything, but I find het romance to be very boring and overdone, mostly because of how women are often portrayed. Regardless of the genre, and regardless of who is w......   1 reply

I experimented with female friends (I'm female as well) when I was ten until around 14. I wasn't attracted to girls, but I quickly found that, despite having a fairly high sex drive, I don't feel physical attraction to most real life people. I thought there was something wrong with me to be a virgin, never been kissed or anything, at 18 (which, as......   reply

It's hard to say where you'll end up. Most people are citing your age, and that's likely to be the case, or perhaps you'll be like me. I'm 32 and I've never been in love or even had a strong crush. I've never been in a relationship, though I have had a number of guys (and girls) express interest. It just never clicked for me. People have suggested......   reply

I don't want babies, and I used to think I didn't want kids at all, but I might adopt some older kids when I'm more stable. However, I'm in my 30s and my depression is still really bad. It's hard enough to take care of myself, and I'm a broke college student. If I got pregnant right now, I don't know what I'd do. My younger sister has a kid, so ho......   reply

I wasn't sure if I should answer, but this place is essentially anonymous, so what the hell. I can't talk to most people about it, so talking into the void might help, especially with others who get it. I have Major Depressive Disorder, which is a debilitating form of clinical depression, part chemical, part circumstantial. I'll be dealing with it......   1 reply

I have zero problem with people's 100% fictional fantasies or art/writing, and I'm even a huge fan of a few things I find repulsive in real life (like sexual violence), but personally, I hate incest. I think it ties into the fact that people act like the only kind of love that matters is sexual love. Intense love between friends or family members, ......   reply

For anyone who lives in an environment where people are anti-gay for religious purposes, you should ask them if they're okay with divorce. This won't work if you live somewhere where no one is allowed to get divorced, but most Christians are fine with people getting remarried. However, the bible is NOT fine with it, and by their own doctrine, ever......   reply

Thanks for asking this! I'm 33, current film student, working in the industry. My generation is still very likely to be caught up in fandoms, etc. but there are a lot of stereotypes that make people feel like they have to be ashamed of liking these things past the age of 20. I like seeing so many people my age or older who are still into this stuf......   3 reply

Oh god, so many things. I would have been able to handle so many things in so many better ways if I knew then what I knew now. Maybe taking so many years off to work before going back to college was a mistake. Most of my changes would be to get in shape and stay healthy, to get treatment for my depression earlier, and to chase my dreams as quickly......   reply

I was 17, and I can even tell you the place and the date. I was on a plane flying to the Bahamas with my best friend. We each had a copy of Fake in our hands. We got to the first kiss around the same time and screamed right there on the plane. We were instant fangirls. That was July 3rd, 2003.   2 reply

I'm not really either, but if you ask the characters from my novels and RPs, I'm definitely an S, haha. If I had to pick one, probably M, but not too much. I have some emotional masochism issues, but I don't like physical pain during sex, etc.   reply

Way too hard to pick just one! I guess off the top of my head, Itou-san, since it's such a great manga, and you rarely get such dark, gritty yaoi anime with an actual happy ending. Or something by Harada. Could you even imagine? It'd be beautiful, horrible, and amazing. XD   reply

I'm a 32-year-old cis-female living in Los Angeles after years of planning to move here. Spent over half of my life in California, but I've only been in L.A. for almost four. I'm white, single, uninterested in marriage or children. Probably a 1.5 on the Kinsey scale. I'm a writer and film maker, and I'm hoping to make LGBT stuff even more mainstre......   reply