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ive been in a closet for many many years and i live in a very conservative country and so are my friends and family, but the more years go, the more i feel in pain and i dont want to lie to those who are precious to me. i wanted to come out to my friends but again they are not very open minded about gay people and just today i had a homophobic conversation....ugh idk what to do... i love my friends so much tho and ik they love me too. but i never have told anyone ever that im queer even though all these years. it hurts a lot i cant do it anymore
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There is this misconception with shounen ai that it's just cute non smutty, less toxic yaoi. Which is wrong. Just because someone has no sa or physical abuse dosent mean the story isnt toxic asf.
And ( now it had changed but a few years before) most shounen ai are mistagged asf. Tagging sth as *fluffy*, just because the characters are in school is going to give the reader mixed messages.
An example of this is never understand. All the comments were saying how cute it was but when I read it....like it was just underlined bulling and emotional abuse from all sides. The seme literally almost beats him up in one point?!? And admits hes using him just to solve his inner messed up trauma he has with *ugly people* and I'm not taking about the beggining, he tries to alienate from his family. Also the seme friends ALWAYS give him backhanded compliments is uncomfy, and the same knows btw and dosent care. Also I'm not even talking about how the uke uke almost gets SA and the seme thinks hes cheating instead of idk?!?! Helping?!?! There's also some side characters who are also just messed up in my opinion, and no im not even talking about the bullies im not going there.
If you like it that's ok I get it. I mean I kinda dont but let's be real with each other.
And ( now it had changed but a few years before) most shounen ai are mistagged asf. Tagging sth as *fluffy*, just because the characters are in school is going to give the reader mixed messages.
An example of this is never understand. All the comments were saying how cute it was but when I read it....like it was just underlined bulling and emotional abuse from all sides. The seme literally almost beats him up in one point?!? And admits hes using him just to solve his inner messed up trauma he has with *ugly people* and I'm not taking about the beggining, he tries to alienate from his family. Also the seme friends ALWAYS give him backhanded compliments is uncomfy, and the same knows btw and dosent care. Also I'm not even talking about how the uke uke almost gets SA and the seme thinks hes cheating instead of idk?!?! Helping?!?! There's also some side characters who are also just messed up in my opinion, and no im not even talking about the bullies im not going there.
If you like it that's ok I get it. I mean I kinda dont but let's be real with each other.
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Just found out I share the same bday as the rapist from jinx (idk if he is an abuser I refuse to read that) and I think he did in fact jinx my bad cus I went from happy to hating my day... great!
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Listen I never assume the author gender or sexuality cus most cases we don't know and we will never know. The authors all use pen names and don't show their face. However.... as a Yuri and yaoi enjoyed for like 7 years <hollyshit> I can ALWAYS tell when the author is;
1. In the queer community
2. Very very well educated on the gays and how we work
The author can put out a fantastic 10 out of 10 Manga and trust me i won't be the same as the mid manga/Manhwa a queer person has done. The tension and the issues that we face, the dialogue and the way the characters are written is completely different. Ofc there are also queer authors who just suck at writing and they put rubbish aka some of the Yuri authors I love Yuri but man really??? Let's get our shit together.
A queer person Def isn't going to write a painter of a night type Manga. A queer person deff isn't writing some of these omega verse Mangas. A queer person is deff writing Incidentally Dyed By Spring's Love or dark heaven. Yk??
Also reminder than queer people can write smut, and fluff, only a true gay can write some of the most disturbing shit or the most fluffy toothrooting manga. But the nuance of the Manga always gives it away yk?!?!
Also comment random bl/gl to tell yall my opinion
1. In the queer community
2. Very very well educated on the gays and how we work
The author can put out a fantastic 10 out of 10 Manga and trust me i won't be the same as the mid manga/Manhwa a queer person has done. The tension and the issues that we face, the dialogue and the way the characters are written is completely different. Ofc there are also queer authors who just suck at writing and they put rubbish aka some of the Yuri authors I love Yuri but man really??? Let's get our shit together.
A queer person Def isn't going to write a painter of a night type Manga. A queer person deff isn't writing some of these omega verse Mangas. A queer person is deff writing Incidentally Dyed By Spring's Love or dark heaven. Yk??
Also reminder than queer people can write smut, and fluff, only a true gay can write some of the most disturbing shit or the most fluffy toothrooting manga. But the nuance of the Manga always gives it away yk?!?!
Also comment random bl/gl to tell yall my opinion