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TLDR: Are these just the low points with some friends? or am I in something toxic?

Hello again. This is another post passing by asking anyone for possible input into friendships. I need more perspectives to consider

I have this friend. Over the course of our friendship, conflicts naturally occur. I don't exactly think that they happen too often but honestly, I can't tell what's considered "normal" in terms of frequency either. But I consider conflicts to be an opportunity for growth

And the pattern usually goes like this: something wrong happened, we talk about it, we resolve it. Except the "we talk about it" phase often makes me frustrated or sad. Sometimes the conversation is constructive and wholesome. That's the dreaaaam

But most of the time, I'm getting a really aggressive approach from them. And by the time we resolve it, they touch on how they were aggressive or apologize for it. But I still get really scarred from how they came on in the conversation

I'm also not sure if that's just something that I need to work on letting go because they take accountability for what they say too.

I'm getting the idea that they're working on themselves so maybe it's just a process for them to be a bit aggressive but realize it later. And it'll probably get better over time. But I'm also worried that in future conflicts, they'll be aggressive again, even though it's a process that they're working on.

I don't know how to feel when our future conflict resolution becomes aggressive and deep, instead of constructive and deep. Is this just someone who's having a hard time going through how reactive they are to stuff? or am I in something toxic that I should consider leaving?

I've known them for a while, so my life with them is a habit to me. I really can't tell. Memes are always welcome ty

For me, I'd like an array of photoshopped memes about my life to be appreciated in an album. Some sad times can happen yes, but I'd want everyone to be happy that I was happy in my life. So bring on the servings of cake and lactose free drinks

I had mangago all up in my DMs. I felt special. Mangago even listened to me. They wrote to me about how the questions that got took down also took down my answers. And you know what they did?

They wrote my answers back for me to see what I missed (●￣(ｴ)￣●) they wrote back every single one. errmaagosh I could've cried of happiness

And then a thread popped up and I found out I was just a side hoe bc they were all up in other people's DMs T-T

Then a while after we stopped talking, mangago messages me again and quotes my answer for the question that got removed. Oh no you guys... I'm feeling special again. My feels. Just tell me if I'm a side hoe again ╥﹏╥

Specific descriptions are even better but not necessary! How old were you? Where were you? Was anyone around? What were regular thoughts you would've thought about at that age? What was the manga? And was there a scene that shook you? Did you have any idea that you'd be reading A LOT of similar content after that first experience? Thank you!

Have you ever been on a date where maybe afterwords or during, you realized that maybe ONLY YOU thought it was a date, and the other party might not have?

Cis-female here, I'm just curious to see what some answers would be.

I was 5 when I first fell for a guy and 20 when I first fell for a girl ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

Feel free to specify experiences or leave memes~

I didn't think I'd get to a consistent phase of my life where I'm no longer confident in myself, when I lack the reality to assess myself, lack the ability to talk to people or work on existing close friendships. How do you build confidence as a person then?

I scrolled through my various Facebook meme groups and I can tell the Bernie memes are gonna get old despite how creative they are

I wanna savour these memey moments.
HIT ME WITH YOUR FRESHEST BERNIE MEMES PLS (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

By relationships I mean any, as in romantic, family, friendships, the in-between

(╯°Д °)╯╧╧ I'M LOOKING FOR THIS SPECIFIC YAOI MANGA. The main character starts having daydreams about his co-worker fucking him in all these scenarios. In the dreams he doesn't actually know that it's the coworker because all he sees is this outline of a shaded figure, but on his chest there's three dots in the shape of a triangle the coworker has three moles on his chest. The dreams happen whenever the main character is near the co-worker but they stop when the coworker touches him (▰˘◡˘▰). The main character also has a girlfriend but dumps him because she catches him using her vibrator. Because of all the dreams he got curious and wanted a taste of that dick (๑•ㅂ•)و✧. I think the first chapter or so is a scene of the main character trying to give a speech at a business meeting but the dreams make him distracted and sexually flustered so he can't continue the presentation. IF YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT THIS MANGA IS OR ANY CLUES AT ALL. PLS TELL ME ;~; I'M DESPERATE.

I'M LOOKING FOR THIS SPECIFIC YAOI MANGA. The main character starts having daydreams about his co-worker fucking him in all these scenarios. In the dreams he doesn't actually know that it's the coworker because all he sees is this outline of a shaded figure, but on his chest there's three dots in the shape of a triangle the coworker has three moles on his chest. The dreams happen whenever the main character is near the co-worker but they stop when the coworker touches him (▰˘◡˘▰). The main character also has a girlfriend but dumps him because she catches him using her vibrator. Because of all the dreams he got curious and wanted a taste of that dick (๑•ㅂ•)و✧. I think the first chapter or so is a scene of the main character trying to give a speech at a business meeting but the dreams make him distracted and sexually flustered so he can't continue the presentation. IF YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT THIS MANGA IS OR ANY CLUES AT ALL. PLS TELL ME ;~; I'M DESPERATE.

I’ve made a past, current, and hopefully future me below
(▰˘◡˘▰)

You can make one here:
https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/644129

Nudes? A podcast that you follow? Guilty pleasure music? Games that show that you're heavily influenced by ads?

Just curious! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

PHEW SO
I'd like to see the different views that people have on this. I've thought of the following categories. And if you have more categories please write that first in your comment I'd love to see it! Definitely not required to address all these topics, just an opinion is fine

Online manga uploaded to sites from:
1. existing (printed & published) Manga/Manhwas
a) completed or hiatus or discontinued
b) updated & ongoing

2. purely online works (webtoons/visual adaptations of web novels)
a) made free for creation
b) paid for for creation
c) also considering discontinued, hiatus, updated consistently, etc for both cases of free or not

And I'd love to see the viewpoint from the following:
- readers
- uploaders/translation/scanlantion contributors
- authors if any! Or those who really got close to putting out work and had to go through the author process

Topics of thought:
- upload time after an update?
- censorship. That's it. Periodt
- blog sites that summarize the plot of a chapter as a neutral zone

Thoughts can be polarizing and will definitely clash. Please be respectful! I don't want any cancel culture in the comments T-T just good open discussion

Since I'm quite interested in this question I may come back to this question from time to time [repost]

I've got a friend that I've known for quite a while. We're bordering on 3 years and he's gotten better at handling conflict with me over time. But when he's stressed or under negative motions. IT FUCKING SEEPS EVERYWHERE AND I HATE THAT SHIT.

Like it you're gonna be aggressive, go out and be open about it so I can slap the consequences into our conversation. Being passive is the same to me.

So I let him know. I let him know briefly in the moment that he can't push those feelings onto me when I'm doing nothing wrong and it doesn't create a good environment.

And sure he'll explain that it's work or the reason at the time, but IT. DOESN'T. STOP. like I'd say passive aggressiveness is in their personality, in their habits.

Like don't be out here with your side eyes, one line answers, silent treatment, UNNECESSARY PERIODS BC BITCH WE KNOW YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT PUNCTUATION, and what do I do about this?

Sitting him down and letting him know if the best option also most explosive of course but I'm beginning to wonder if nothing much has changed in terms of this specific attitude from him.

And if I sit him down, it won't just go away and I'll have to remind him and that'll annoy him too