Every single person has the right to express themselves, but I honestly think there's a sort of demonization on going towards "cishet white women and men that read BL" as if they automatically fetishize them just because they're put in this category. I'm a non-binary, asexual, biromantic with homoromatic tendencies, mentally and physically ill person, if it's necessary to label myself in order to give out my opinion. I also read BL just as I read josei or some spare GL.
To read BL, while being who you are whatever category you're part of, doesn't make you automatically someone who fetishizes gays. What matters the most of to differentiate between reality and fiction, which means that yes you can read BL, but no you can't apply it to life. You can't go around asking private questions to real gay people, because that's just disrespectful.
Fiction isn't always equal to reality. If you can't differentiate between fiction and reality, it's your own fault and you have to fix it by becoming aware of it. Let's make an example. I can find Sangwoo interesting as on a psychological level because he's a character, he doesn't exist, and because Killing Stalking is fictional, but this doesn't mean I support Ted Bundy. It's an entirely different thing. It can't be compared, because that would be just madness.
I also think that you can find interesting problematic characters or couples, as long as you comprehend the fact that the dynamics/attitudes are unhealthy if reproduced in real life. To find "interesting" doesn't mean to excuse the wrongdoings, it's actually the contrary. It means you truly understand how deeply rooted the issue is, but since it's fictional you're allowed to find something or someone simply interesting perhaps on a psychological level to you. It doesn't mean you have to be guilt-tripped for it.
To read BL, while being who you are whatever category you're part of, doesn't make you automatically someone who fetishizes gays. What matters the most of to differentiate between reality and fiction, which means that yes you can read BL, but no you can't apply it to life. You can't go around asking private questions to real gay people, because that's just disrespectful.
Fiction isn't always equal to reality. If you can't differentiate between fiction and reality, it's your own fault and you have to fix it by becoming aware of it. Let's make an example. I can find Sangwoo interesting as on a psychological level because he's a character, he doesn't exist, and because Killing Stalking is fictional, but this doesn't mean I support Ted Bundy. It's an entirely different thing. It can't be compared, because that would be just madness.
I also think that you can find interesting problematic characters or couples, as long as you comprehend the fact that the dynamics/attitudes are unhealthy if reproduced in real life. To find "interesting" doesn't mean to excuse the wrongdoings, it's actually the contrary. It means you truly understand how deeply rooted the issue is, but since it's fictional you're allowed to find something or someone simply interesting perhaps on a psychological level to you. It doesn't mean you have to be guilt-tripped for it.
about first yaoi
Hello, I have a question for you. When I was adolescent, I really loved Death Note. However, basically the whole fandom shipped Light and L especially because of that very intense raining scene into the anime (it was very beautiful!). I'm not saying you can't ship them, but I remember I felt really weirded out by the ship because inside of me I thought Light that wasn't "sexual" nor "interested in anything romantic" and the same went for L about sex. So in my mind I always perceived Light as asexual and aromatic and L as at least asexual, which made me weirded out by smut doujinshi or fanfictions meanwhile I could tolerate shounen-ai in the end. Later on in my adult life I understood what being asexual and aromantic meant, so I definitely saw how Light and L could be that.
My question is: is there a character or more that you think is asexual and/or aromantic but the fandom doesn't recognize it as such and keep shipping it with someone else sexually/romantically?
I have nothing against you if you do it. I'm aseuxal, but I don't think it's hurtful for me personally. I'm just curious!
My question is: is there a character or more that you think is asexual and/or aromantic but the fandom doesn't recognize it as such and keep shipping it with someone else sexually/romantically?
I have nothing against you if you do it. I'm aseuxal, but I don't think it's hurtful for me personally. I'm just curious!
caseycrumb24#4985 hit me up if you wanna be friends, talk about yaoi, anime, manga, tv shows movies etc (i really love horror, too!).
about about relationships
A question. Don't fight. Why if someone - anyone - likes a negative character, saying they find them interesting perhaps on a psychological level, is supposed to go on therapy? Obviously, they also tell you that they don't excuse their wrongdoings fictionally just as in reality, so they would be horrified by it in real life. It could be a murderer, rapist, thief, abuser, etc.
Why this person is supposed to need therapy, if they're just saying they find interesting a character? I mean, I've been liking villains or negative characters my whole life. Lord Voldemort, Death Eaters, Hannibal, Darth Vader, etc. I wanna keep this short, so yeah. What pushes you to claim they need therapy? It's something that happens only nowadays, when I was younger everyone stanned villains. No one had a problem with it. IDK.
Why this person is supposed to need therapy, if they're just saying they find interesting a character? I mean, I've been liking villains or negative characters my whole life. Lord Voldemort, Death Eaters, Hannibal, Darth Vader, etc. I wanna keep this short, so yeah. What pushes you to claim they need therapy? It's something that happens only nowadays, when I was younger everyone stanned villains. No one had a problem with it. IDK.
about can i vent it out
Hello everyone. This is going to be long, so I'm sorry. I always labeled myself as asexual and biromantic, but since many years I'm wondering if I might be aromantic as well. I had relationships, but unfortunately they were toxic because my girlfriends were bitches. I however don't think it entirely influenced me negatively, even if surely in the past it was easier for me to fall in love and trust love.
I wanna clarify one detail about myself. I'm an adult, so life is difficult between bills, work, rent, life problems, etc. I really lack of time, and when I have time I prefer to dedicate it to myself or my closest friends, but at the same time I dream of finding love once and for all. Also no, I don't want marriage or children, if that's a relevant detail.
Let's explain this: I DO want a romantic relationship, I DO like to fantasize about love and partners but...I find myself completely... uninterested when it comes to actually building it up in real life. To put it simple: it seems beautiful as long as it's in my head, but as soon as I start meeting people (it's the same whether they're men or women) I end up struggling with time or interest management. It's so hard to find time for other people, hang out with them, text them, call them, especially when it's a "new relationship". I really find myself struggling a lot, and I basically "lose interest". It doesn't help the fact that I'm asexual, so I only hang out with non sexual people ^^" (it's like fishing in a puddle, we're just few unfortunately).
I also noticed that I tend to value much more friendship than relationships in real life. Like a best friend for me comes first than a girlfriend. At this point my ideal life it's probably being with a stable job and having lots of friends :/.
I already read everything I could about aromantic people, and I even recently talked to a friend of mine. He thinks he's aromantic, so he gave me his opinion about it. But I'd like to hear more stories, so please...share with me how you understood you were aromantic! It would be helpful to clear my mind about the matter.
I wanna clarify one detail about myself. I'm an adult, so life is difficult between bills, work, rent, life problems, etc. I really lack of time, and when I have time I prefer to dedicate it to myself or my closest friends, but at the same time I dream of finding love once and for all. Also no, I don't want marriage or children, if that's a relevant detail.
Let's explain this: I DO want a romantic relationship, I DO like to fantasize about love and partners but...I find myself completely... uninterested when it comes to actually building it up in real life. To put it simple: it seems beautiful as long as it's in my head, but as soon as I start meeting people (it's the same whether they're men or women) I end up struggling with time or interest management. It's so hard to find time for other people, hang out with them, text them, call them, especially when it's a "new relationship". I really find myself struggling a lot, and I basically "lose interest". It doesn't help the fact that I'm asexual, so I only hang out with non sexual people ^^" (it's like fishing in a puddle, we're just few unfortunately).
I also noticed that I tend to value much more friendship than relationships in real life. Like a best friend for me comes first than a girlfriend. At this point my ideal life it's probably being with a stable job and having lots of friends :/.
I already read everything I could about aromantic people, and I even recently talked to a friend of mine. He thinks he's aromantic, so he gave me his opinion about it. But I'd like to hear more stories, so please...share with me how you understood you were aromantic! It would be helpful to clear my mind about the matter.
Would you recommend me watching my hero academia? I avoided it so carefully because I think it's something comedy...I usually like dark, horror, angst, seinen, etc, but I liked Naruto a lot. I just stumbled upon a Dabi fanart and he looks like a cool villain (don't know the character in details).
Would you recommend the anime? Let me know, thanks ^^.
Would you recommend the anime? Let me know, thanks ^^.