From my experience on this site people seem to be rather on board with rape or constantly find excuse for it, probably due to how common it is in mangas. At the same time cheating is super frowned upon, and it seems really odd to me, that out of two bad things, the most traumatic of them is being defended.
Rape is worse. Definitely the worst, i wouldn't wish it to happen even on my worst nemesis (i don't have one tho) . Id rather be cheated numerous times than be raped. reply