Not feeling as much as others
So I’ve realised this for a while now and it’s become more noticeable (only to me) during this whole pandemic that I really don’t feel as much (strongly) as most people (I think?).
Like I’ve never actually said anything to anyone on how I feel about this because I don’t want things to get weird between anyone I know but, I notice that I don’t feel as attached to people as they may be to me (sorry it’s hard to put into words).
To begin with I don’t really like any physical contact (ie hugs, pokes, pats, etc) or saying “love you” to family and I can tell it kinda bothers people around me so I try my best to allow hugs but not that often. And people talk about this strong connection you feel with family but I just don’t feel it (don’t know why because they all love me dearly) and with friends they may feel like I’m one of their best friends but I realise I keep them at a distance (this is due to past experiences with other ‘friends’) but this has been improving but, I have never been one to talk in-depth about how I feel and things that happen within my family (don’t want to ruin the mood and have others feel sympathy as I wouldn’t want it).
Another thing is that I don’t really feel any sympathy or empathy for people (like one time I got sent out of class with a friend who was crying and I just stood there thinking “wtf do I do” and then proceeded to tell them it’s alright despite not feeling anything towards how they feel) and I don’t know if it’s because I haven’t experienced something as triggering as that person has (like ignorance in a way) or if it’s just plain heartlessness.
There have been a few eventful things that have happened to the people very close to me (self harming-past and divorce-current) and some people around me have tried to degrade me (this happened a few years back) by making me feel bad about my weight and fitness but (luckily) I have a good enough self confidence and awareness (as in I know I’m not overweight and that they are projecting their own feelings onto me) to ignore those comments. I don’t know if this has made me desensitise slightly or if these have nothin to do with how I feel.
Is it normal to feel this way?
Just to clarify: I do feel things just not as much as others not trying to say I feel nothing and I’m only in my teens (if that has any impact on this)
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I'm a bit like that, sometimes I find it hard to feel empathy, and sometimes I get really emotional out of nowhere, and I usually cry very easily. Idk if it's cuz I cry/get emotional so easily that I don't value other people's tears as much,(it's really wierd sometimes I treat my own real-life emotional state as entertainment and try to savor it.........
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10 07,2020
i feel the same but for some dumb reason i feel more sympathy and empathy for manga characters
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09 07,2020
It sounds like depression.
Sometimes it's hard to tell if you're depressed cos it looks different for everyone. The idea in our heads of what depression looks like (no energy, crying all the time, dark mood, doing nothing all day, etc) is true for a lot of people, but it's not the only form of depression. Sometimes it's being out of touch with yo......
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09 07,2020
Here’s some of my thoughts of the reasons:
1) When you experience desensitizing and traumatic experiences you end up unable to feel more due to being exposed to the extreme conditions
2) depression (for me personally but any mental illness also fits) messes with your brain
3) age-I noticed how it’s easier for older people to say they love you/......
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10 07,2020
I find it really easy to say I love anime and manga characters and have probably cried a lot of times watching anime and reading yaoi. When it comes to real people though I just feel, how do I say it? Indifferent I guess. I have a couple of friends, but sometimes I wonder if it's just one sided and they don't actually consider me anything to them. ......
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09 07,2020
Wow and here i thought there was something wrong with me.
I am also the same but in my case my mom outright told me that I am cold person. I like my distance and i really like keeping to myself. I struggle to sympathize and in worse case scenarios I actually end up irritated by other's situations (well i think thats going off tangent).
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10 07,2020
It's pretty normal, at least in my perspective. Though I'm not saying that you can't, it may be possible that you subconsciously not recognize or acknowledge-feeling numb to- some of these emotions...
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10 07,2020
I've also realized some things about me during this pandemic. I've realized that I never really liked physical contact, such as hugs and kisses. Giving my family members hugs is kinda alright but kisses is something else. There was this one when one of my friends were crying, and I didn't know what to do, i just told her "everything is going to be ......
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09 07,2020
I’m not sure if it normal or not but it’s the same for me .my family never rlly liked me and I’ve had bad experiences with friends .whenever I see someone from my family sick lie my older sister or something I legit feel nothing I don’t feel concern or sympathy but a bit of annoyance.sometimes I hav to pretend to care.its hard I don’t und......
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10 07,2020
Wow, so I wasn't expecting a question like this nor for so many people to express that they feel the same way. I, too, don't "feel anything" by that I mean it's very hard for me to experience emotions and I have a hard time communicating and expressing myself.
I wouldn't call this experience "normal" but it certainly is more common than you think......
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10 07,2020
