THE WEIRD AF STORY OF MY LIFE T.T

Want to talk about first dates? Mine started off as simply hanging out at his place, please note that his ENTIRE family was home (aunt, grandma, grandpa, cousins). Anyway, we meet during training at work because we got hired around the same time. He was nice, didn't think of him in any romantic way but I figured we would be good friends. We'd hung out before but it was always group events and everyone else was "coupled" in a sense. That's kinda why we stuck together.

This was the first time it was just us. I figured we would just watch some movies and eat. (I'm a firm believer that men and women can do this as FRIENDS) I informed him ahead of time I had a midterm due by midnight but that I could take it with me and while he watches a movie I could get it done. We both agreed that this would work out just fine.

So I get there, meet the family, and we head off to his room. The night starts fine but then AS I'm taking a midterm he offer me a drink, an alcoholic drink, now I may be underage (20) but I've had my fair share. I decide "what the hell" and take one. I forget 1) that I haven't drunk in a long while and 2) I fucking love drinking. So here I am taking a test (a MIDTERM at that) slowly sipping on a drink. About an hour or so later I'm drinking straight from the bottle of whiskey (I don't like mixer - I prefer my alcohol straight)

At this point, I'm a giggling mess and he is trying to take the bottle away from my crazy ass and help me with a midterm he knew nothing about. Let me clarify that I get pretty touchy with ANYBODY when I drink so I'm all over him. I pretty much black out BEFORE I submit my midterm. Woke up the next morning with my clothes off and virginity gone. What a night and I don't even remember it!! Now I was pretty upset at first, I mean I was CLEARLY DRUNK.

I was so shocked that when he woke up I had sex with him again because I didn't know what to do or how to say no. Now I want to encourage anyone reading this that if you ever feel like you are in this kind of situation to NOT be like me. Don't think for a second you don't have a voice, say NO. Or if you think you are unsafe to find an excuse to leave the room, say you need to use the bathroom get some water ANYTHING then leave. Hell, leave your shit behind if you need to as long as you can get your hands on some keys.

My story didn't end up being so tragic though. And I honestly don't even think of it as rape. We both made some mistakes that night and it's on both of us. What I think some people forget it that we were BOTH drinking. I ended up telling him how I felt about the situation the next day and he apologized for DAYS and did everything he could to make it up to me.

In the end, we became friends with benefits and have been for a few months (still ongoing). I don't like him in the sense of ever getting serious but I work full time and go to college full-time so I don't have time for relationships. This gives me a way to have a little fun and destress. I do consider this our first "date" because we have since gone on a few (and I mean things like movie nights, arcades, out to eat). Pretty much mock dates because we aren't really dating.

Anyhow, I do have some regrets from that night but losing my virginity isn't one of them. I do regret drinking the alcohol but only because I knew I had a midterm. You see I'm big on school and I had never made such a big mistake. I ended up failing the test but overall achieving a B in the class (not an A but I'll take it)

We met at the airport, he offered me his jacket and a cup of tea because I was cold, we exchanged numbers, he called and asked me for a date.I was expecting basic things, like going out for dinner or drinks, he insisted on taking me to a one day trip to a small island, I payed the ferry tickets, he took me to the beach, he bought two small bottles of water, I payed for lunch, he never thanked me, I returned home 150 $ lighter, he called for another date, I kindly declined (haven't had my paycheck yet), he got mad, end of story.
I'm an independent adult, I make my own living and pay all of my expenses, but boy when you ask me out don't make me pay for everything, at least have the decency to share the bill.

Awkard dates huh lol well, my friends tried to set me up with one freaking huge chicken of a guy (I don't know about other places, but a "chicken guy" here is a guy who goes out with every single women he can get his hands on). I hate relationships and I hate even more when all of my friends have boyfriends and they think I can only be happy if I have one too. So I decided to act the most undesireble way possible: as a jealous, clingy, crazy woman. Instead of leaving me alone and hunt down someone less problematic, he actually got the stupid idea I was trying to be hard catch so he could go chase me down even harder. Oh my goddess. Trying to explain to him I wasn't interested at all was one thing (one hellish hard thing), it got super awkard, he tried to kiss me, I got mad, he said that turned him on and I made the pathetic escape running like no tomorrow. That was ok as long as he stayed away from me, but my friends turned into scary vengeful death angels (the guy was their boyfriend's best friend or shit like that) (or they got into their minds the same idea of the guy, I never asked them) . So when I called them over my place (when I say call them over that include their respective dates), and they actually brought the guy with them. So I got into an even more awkard situation of trying to watch a movie with couples all around me and a guy trying to grope me. I had to beg to one of my friends to get him away from me, I had to make a scene so she could understand I did not want that guy near me, nor in my house or anywhere near my sight. I don't know what she said to him, but he didn't speak with me, left my house at the end of the movie and I never saw him again. It was awkard.