random social rant
just got loved bombed and encouraged me to open then i opened up ab stuff and suddenly they started acting different and i asked for advice ab this and people told me i was using them a therapist WHAT im so confused because they told me to open up, and if opening up bothered them i wouldve stopped like??? i asked them and they said they were fine and acting dry w me so i was so confused and everyone said i was the problem and to just ghost
a little frustrating because i have a history of ghosting and i didnt want to do that (glad i didnt) anyways i worked it out but lowkey insane how people think opening up is trauma dumping and how every relationship that doesnt go your way should be “cut them off” what ever happened to empathy? to being patient and working things out? i feel like so much ‘psychological’ advice these days is bullshit and performative to just be morally right instead of actually dealing with real issues.
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I agree.
Opening up especially with your friends is well, friendship?
Like for me if I get overwhelmed by other's negative emotions I just say that.
I feel like letting people not around eggshells with you is a part of a healthy friendship.
And you shouldn't have to feel burdened for simply having feelings.
Different people in your life also serve different purpose, so the person you're opening up to of course might be like: "I'm fine with it." While the other people who don't understand your relationship and think you should hold it in are the same people you would NEVER OPEN UP TO.
Oh i had this problem exactly before, I've said MULTIPLE TIMES to tell me if I'm bothering them. If I being a burden or if I'm hurting anyone, cause I'm overthinking like that and ppl still assume the worst of me sometimes like I asked, I had set boundaries.
OH MY GOD EXACTLY THANK YOU. i feel like people do not listen to the entire situation or they just jump to conclusions so fucking quickly. and like i feel like nowadays people aren’t even aware that they are such fucking hypocrites too. anyway, i hate that whenever i tell anyone about my relationship they are like “just break up with them” or “just drop them” like HELLOO im complaining because i want to SOLVE the problem not create more
Oh my god yes. i need people to stop using these clinical terms and cold language in their relationships!! them sayign you were "traumadumping" and i just know they were like "i need to set a boundary."
what happened to compassion. if you cant handle it, dont ask for it? what!
No bc I get what you mean. Most people these days cant be bothered to hear about your problems even if they say they want you to be more open with them. Then wonders why said person doesn’t open up anymore
People are quick as hell to drop bc they lack the emotional capacity to deal with anything even the slightest bit “troublesome” because they want “low effort” friendships
your right buts its so frustrating because they themselves encourage ‘communication’ but never actually communicate themselves, like friendships actually need bonding and trust
also low effort friendships are so weird idk why they even want friends in the first place