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I usually don't rant hear but all my friends are sleeping. so this guy friend of mine ignored me after he had an awful experience in a concert which i begged him to go. During the concert he was an asshole to me the whole time even though he knew it was really important to me. After a week of him ignoring me i texted him "are you ignoring me" he said "U got that right" and I said "Do you wanna talk abt it?" And he said later. Going into our friendship will be long but it's a one year friendship. we always had a very weird one . We were always asshole in a joking way to each and had really open communication it was basically toxic . But he's been really important to me so should I continue being friends with or should I cut it off coz I need some closure and I wanna talk to him abt it but my friends think I've lost some dignity texting him that. Ask whatever question coz this probably didn't give enough context but please tell me what to do
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"U got that right" lmao bro did not hold back
He never fucking does
i love this guy, but he seems like he just needed a slap. for your sake tho, i wouldn't tolerate ppl mistreating you or taking out their anger on you instead of communicating like adults
Rightt yeah I'm honestly done with him
Honestly, I think you already know this friendship is kinda messy. The fact that your gut is telling you to get closure means you need to talk to him, but not for him, for you. If you feel like you need that convo to move on or figure things out, do it. But don’t beg for his attention or let him make you feel like crap for caring.
At the same time, a friendship where you both act like ‘assholes’ to each other (even jokingly) is fun until it’s not. And right now, it’s not. If he values the friendship too, he’ll be open to talking. If he keeps brushing you off, then you’ve got your answer. Either way, you don’t lose dignity for wanting to clear the air, just don’t chase someone who doesn’t wanna be caught.
Yeah thanks knowing him he'll talk tho
Maybe he needs space rn. I would just leave him a message telling him that he can take his time to process, you care about him as a friend, and he can reach out when he feels ready to talk about it. Then you leave it be and wait for him to message you when he's ready. If he never messages back, ig that's also an answer of sorts.
I get he needs space but what's weird is that one day after the concert he sent me reel which i ignored coz I was pissed and few days after that he in his spam he posted pics of us when we went out and shit so it's confusing what he wants
That is really confusing. Ig wait a bit and reach out again? Maybe he's just a little miffed you ignored him when you were mad. Or maybe he's feeling petty.
Thanks let's see how it goes
Hope it turns out ok!
this is so One Room TA ex girlfriend coded (i'm no friendship expert but i vote to apologize to each other and make up)
Lol fr thanks tho