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so i have been dating my bf for 6 years now and we wanna get married. my parents are happy and support our decision whereas his family will only allow it if i give up my identity i.e change my name to match their ethnicity, shift to their locality and totally integrate into their culture. no compromises. since this is a long standing tradition my bf is in favor of it but i am hesitant to do so bc i take great pride in the name my parents have given me, my culture and identity as a whole. what do you guys think i should do? would it really be worth it to give up my own sense of self for the sake of love?

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Cinnamon 7 days

Your bf never loved you for who you are if he is so adamant about you changing your identity. Fight this. If I'm marrying someone I would never ask them to change their identity because at that point, I would love them wholly and unconditionally for who they are. That's why I'd marry them in the FIRST place. Also, this conversation should have be...... reply

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