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so i have been dating my bf for 6 years now and we wanna get married. my parents are happy and support our decision whereas his family will only allow it if i give up my identity i.e change my name to match their ethnicity, shift to their locality and totally integrate into their culture. no compromises. since this is a long standing tradition my bf is in favor of it but i am hesitant to do so bc i take great pride in the name my parents have given me, my culture and identity as a whole. what do you guys think i should do? would it really be worth it to give up my own sense of self for the sake of love?

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Saccharine 7 days

If you gave up YOUR culture and identity, would you still best "you"? You still won't fit in and will start feeling trapped in marriage. Ultimately, your love would turn into resentment. So It’s won't be worth it. Please talk it out with your bf. If he truly loves you, he will understand and respect your decision and self identity. reply

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