any aro/ace in the chat?

I wanna know how did you guys KNOW? Like really know?

i know this is a common experience for many lgbtq+ people while on a self-discovery journey that they have a phase where they think they are aro/ace because theyre very confused about themselves. I just wanna know how and what made you completely sure you didnt want romantic/sexual attraction.

i have been in (very short) relationships and im extremely confused by myself cause i love the concept of a partner, but when i actually get to be with one (for context im a girl and ive dated two girls), idk if im self sabotaging or i genuinely cant tell the difference between romantic or platonic feelings.
or because of societal pressure of 'you HAVE to be with someone' I'm not sure if im forcing myself to be with someone for the sake of being with someone. or do i have to wait for 'the one'.

...help (￣∇￣")

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TEEHEE 6 hours

i've never liked having sex me personally it feels like nothing and i get nothing from it i also just can't realistically be in a sexual relationship with someone i just couldn't actually imagine myself getting into a sexual relationship i'm not aro so idk what it's like for an aro person but that's my ace experience reply

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Saccharine 5 hours

I hate labels I might be asexual but I don’t really know and I'm constantly doubting myself. I love the concept of love and I would like a family of my own in the future but I can't really picture myself being in a relationship with someone. In my country there is a lot of pressure on women to get married like its their only life purpose.But I ...... 1 reply

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ChunHuiji4 6 hours

I actually randomly came over Jaiden's Animation video about it on Youtube and it just clicked. I do not have such feelings for anyone most of the time. I did question it for a bit, but I realized that it does describe generally my experience. I also decided that I don't really care about labeling exactly what this is for me. If I ever feel comfo...... reply

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Dr. Killgood 4 hours

The way I knew was that I have never had any romantic or sexual attraction for another person, ever. I like reading romance, and I do have some sexual thoughts very rarely (and even then, never towards another person), but I've never liked anyone like that. I'm repulsed by the idea of participating in sexual acts, so thats a dead giveaway. I might ...... 1 reply

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yoi s2 when 3 hours

I discovered that I was aroace around 2020-2021. The common reasons; I don't want sexual relationships, js that I don't like to have sex. I could never imagine myself having a sexual experience, the mere thought of it made me disgusted. That's how I knew I was ace. I figured out that I was aromantic, since, ever since I was young, I never really h...... 1 reply

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moonpie 40 minutes

I'm an older person, but when I was younger I didn't even know that not getting married or having kids was an option, it's just kind of what people do, so I went with the flow. I felt like in my relationships I didn't really feel what I was supposed to, but more like my satisfaction came from the validation of having someone think I was special an...... 1 reply

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lemonsauce 2 hours

its giving cupioromantic ++ things like "you just need wait for the one" or "you just need to experience it first" are all bullshit to regurgitate what someone else has said before: you dont actually need to experience something for yourself to know what you do and dont like. like, you dont need to actually date a man to know you dont wanna date a...... 1 reply

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Chai 5 hours

omg I wrote a response but I guess it didn’t upload (⊙…⊙ ) it was an accumulation of things I (25F) wasn’t interested in sex during highschool, casual sex in college wasn’t my thing, I thought I was a prude/relationship girlie/lover. I got into a relationships (boy + girl) no sexual interest. I watched Bojack Horseman and loved Todd. W...... 1 reply

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Azure↡Ren 4 hours

Idk how to word this but I have trouble, expressing my love to someone or something, since I was younger, due to my past experience's, through my parents (I have never been in a relationship before, because of thus reason). They also have a really toxic relationship which made me doubt myself, because like what if I mistreat my partner? Without kno...... 1 reply

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Shut_up 4 hours

idk if this is irrelevant or not but when it comes to me idc abt labels but can someone tell me what exactly i would be classified if thats the right words. (im a girl btw) So im attracted to both genders, if i had to date a gender it would be female but i still find males attractive. I don't think i'll have a relationship w someone. Im not ...... 1 reply

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