i don't even know what to title this

so my therapist misgenders me on purpose and uses my birthname she's been doing that since i had come out to her originally as nonbinary but then i told her i was a demiboy and she asked me "what's masculinity to you because anything society perceives as masculine is actually feminine and women rock like really what does a man even do?" and i basically said i had no answer because it's a social construct and for me to say masculinity is this anything would be wrong but i personally feel more comfortable identifying as a man and it make me feel more comfortable to present more fem because of it oddly enough as i posted in my last question i like femboys i admire them and i identify as one myself does that mean i'm not trans or that i can identify as male if i like femininity?