Loneliness in college
I started college this year and while at the start I met a lot of intresting people and I felt really great, with time I realised I barely got any people to stick by. I did make some close friends but they're not exactly my type of people. All I do all day is look at other people and I'm jealous of how many friends they have and how popular they are. But I'm also coming to terms with the fact that I'm introverted and awkward at times, so I guess it makes sense that I don't have the same experience as them. My question is how can I get accustomed to this type of loneliness born out of jealousy?? Im wrecking my brains over how to comfort myself but honestly I feel so hopeless, like I'll never meet proper friends and I'll feel this way forever. My hometown friends already made good friends at their colleges so I feel that no matter which way I look I'll be left behind. Advice from ppl who have had similar feelings?:,)
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I had a similar experience my freshman year. It helps to join clubs. People are more likely to stick around if you have similar interests. Also, talk to people in your major classes. I’ve met a couple friends just by asking random questions (for example “do you remember what chapter we’re taking notes on” or “Do you know when the homework is due”) then carry the conversation. I’ve also bonded with people over mutual friends and the fact that we always take the elevator at the same time. If you take a bus everyday, talk to people there. You can literally start a conversation with a compliment (for example, if they are wearing a shirt for a show you are interested in or want to watch, tell them you like the shirt then say you love that show or want to start watching that show and ask how they feel about the show). If you go to the gym, ask someone for pointers on a certain lift or for a spot. You can then go into how they got into lifting or other interests, etc. It’s pretty easy, the hardest part is getting started and asking for contact info
Another thing that helps is taking the initiative to plan things (at least for the first couple weeks or months). I would always find on campus events or fun study spots and ask people to join me. Most people will feel more inclined to join you if you are willing to go with or without them
I just get more solo hobbies and the day goes by.