Age gap discourse is getting out of hand

I’m only 20 so maybe I’m just dumb af with my little kid brain according to some ppl, but bro. The amount of ppl going crazy over any difference in age is insane. Especially hyper focusing in the twenties. People are saying anyone below 25 is a child essentially. A common argument is the frontal lobe thing, but that was proven to be a myth. Most science (or what I’ve read at least) says at 18-20 people are basically physically and mentally adults. They lack experience and wisdom, yes, but nothing about them physically makes them different.

I agree that people roaming around only wanting super young people is gross and weird, or if they’re only attracted to somebody because of their age. But other than that, if you’re just chilling and like “oh yeah, I’m attracted to every age tbh. Idc about age, just if I feel physical or romantic attraction” I don’t think that’s wrong?? Because it’s just natural and organic.

Unless somebody is below 18, idgaf and I don’t think it’s morally wrong. Some people use the whole “if they could go lower they would” and while I do think there are people who would do that, I don’t think that’s the case for everybody?? I know to me, below 18 is morally AND legally wrong because research has shown that teenagers are…well excuse me, but….dumb af. Naive af. The HPG axis is dictating everything at that point bro

But, I understand trepidation around big age gaps, especially if someone is 18/19 or early twenties. I do understand. I can see why some think it’s weird or question it. But when it comes to barely an age gap, like, both are in their twenties or not even 6 years apart, the amount of people saying it’s predatory and disgusting is insane

“I’m 24, I have NO business being with someone 20.” Uhm…okay…why exactly?? Just because you think you’re SO mature compared to them??

“25 and 21 is a sus age gap. Why are they dating a 21 year old?” Maybe because 21 is only 4 years younger…and not really an age gap… maybe bc they both are actually pretty close in age? Maybe the older just likes them, whether that be for something casual or serious?? They can both drink for fucks sake (in America at least)

“22 and 18 makes me want to barf

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Willow 16 days

I understand your point and I used to think the same thing. But you're going to realize just how much a person changes after they reach their mid twenties. If a 30 year old goes out with a 35 year old, it's not a big deal. But the difference between a 20 year old and a 25 year old is way too much to ignore. I'm not saying everyone with a younger pa...... 1 reply

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Gintokisdykegf 16 days

As a 20 yr old myself I’m gna b honest, dating a 19 yr old or an 18 ur old is SO different, I have friends in college who although r only a year younger than me and very mature still very much have a completely different mindset from me and my peers, u don’t realize how big of a difference u go thru until u actually look back. I definitely do n...... 1 reply

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pigglypoof 16 days

I personally didn't date anyone younger than me in my 20s. I do think it's weird if someone 21+ is dating someone who's 18. I'm sure even you at 20 can feel the difference between yourself and someone who just got out of high school. If they're both in their 20s, I don't mind. I think it would be interesting to see if your thoughts change when yo...... 1 reply

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CMYep 15 days

I think both extremes are kinda weird tbh ("all age gap relationships are gross" vs "all age gaps relationships are fine"). I do think that, in general, age gaps matter less later in life because you're more likely to have closer levels of maturity, you're more likely to be financially independent and you're more likely to be in similar stages in ...... reply

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Mikeyla_coolll 15 days

To be honest, I'm almost 30 yo and in some ways I feel that age gap with a 20 yo to mid 25 or 26 yo person I think a person in its twenties grows and matures a lot in those years and you can feel the gap even if you're just a few years apart. 2 reply

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ponk 15 days

okay prefacing this by clarifying that i'm around your age but i think the experience makes a huge difference in like. maturity, still? the life experience is still important to develop the skills to be independent as an adult. i agree that relationships within the age boundaries you describe aren't inherently predatory but like the age of early ad...... 1 reply

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Mini 15 days

If a 20 and 25 can have a consenting relationship and both of them have a say in the relationship who am I to judge. I personally don't think 5yr age gap is bad after twenties and people always change and mature. 25 know more about the world than 20. 30 has more experience thana 25, can be said the same about 30,35 and 35,40. I think that if both p...... 1 reply

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Epsilon 16 days

I just saw that my post cut off at the bottom Sorry if it’s confusing at the end, it cut out what I was saying which sucks. Edit: Again, like I said, I understand people’s arguments with maturity and people changing a lot. But everyone changes throughout the years. 30 is very different from 40. Age also isn’t always an indicator of maturi...... 1 reply

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