i confessed n got rejected
I did it just yesterday and he rejected me in most subtle way. He's mentally unstable so i was there for him whenever he needed ear to listen to his story. The thing i was really upset about was the fact that he didnt believe i loved him. He said that how could i love him when almost all people in his class hated him. I just wanted him to have more confidence in him self. So when he rejected me, he cried and begged for me not to get mad at him that he didnt want to hurt my heart. Thats why i couldnt cry, bcs tho i got rejected, i was the one who still gave comfort to him. I found that funny. Ofc friends, i was hurt, and wanted to get mad bcs it was just not fair, but its not like i could do that, right? Friend, can i be selfish? He's suicidal, but i really needed my time to be away from him for awhile. This crush has been sailing for almost 2 years, and i feel that its getting toxic for my part.
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Well, in my opinion he should learn to love himself before loving others to ensure a healthy relationship. Of course I don’t want you to abandon him but I think you should leave a space so that he could get himself together. You gotta cherish yourself more so show that you are hurt when you are bb
Yes, i agree with you. Thank you for your concern, bb. You're so kind :)
i need an update on this. how are you two doing now? i hope you're doing well
Hi :) now we're taking a break from each other for a period of time. i told him i need time to be away from him, and he understood. he told me he had been feeling better lately, bcs in this situation he had more time for the meditation his doctor recommended him. Thank you for your concern, hope you have wonderful day :)
He reminds me of a friend of mine, they both are very similar. I don’t have feelings for my friend but I’m still always there for them. I think once he’s ready he’ll realize what he feels. Just stay positive for him but if you need to show him that you’re hurting too do it when you think both of you need to talk.
Yes, i hope next time he gets confessed to he will believe them right away, and already in much better condition to build a relationship. Thank you for your advice. I hope your friend is doing okay. You're so nice :)
His mental health is not your responsibility but i get that you care for him. I would say to take a break from each other because (although i dont know everything) it seems like he relies on you too much and i think it could become toxic for you if he needs you around. but please please if you do decide to take a break dont feel responsible for his mental health if he threatens to hurt himself (not saying he is that kind of person because once again i dont know everything this is just my opinon/advice.)
Yes, i dont want that to happen so now we are taking a break from each other for a while. And he understands. I said a couple of words before saying goodbye- i mean for a while- so now i'll try to trust him and pray for him. Thank you for you advice and kind words. Hope you have wonderful day :)