ykw i always wondered if distracting urself from depressing thoughts helped the actual problem.
in my experience, it never did and it made me develop really shitty habits. for example, food really helped me ignore my anxiety but i developed a binge eating problem. another example is using video games as a distraction, and i was so dragged into it......
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it’s definitely hard actually dealing with problems i also just want to forget them and think about anything else but i just feel like they always dind a way to torment me a week later, a month, half a year idk but i can’t help myself because i feel so shitty actually thinking and figuring out what’s bothering me. any suggestions on how to actually deal with said problems?? because even if i understand what’s going on and why i feel a certain way most of the time i really have no idea what to do
there’s always an underlying cause for these thoughts. solving said problem is specific to THE PROBLEM. what’s been troubling you lately? maybe i can help you figure out solutions? if u don’t feel comfortable sharing you can msg me on my mail
also, solving your problems can help reoccurring issues by making it easier to deal with later on. figuring out what the issue is, is the first step. i think the hardest part is trying to fix said problem!
a method i use to try to help myself come up with a way to fix it, is by imagining someone I care about having the same problem. i am a person who tries to give advice and help guide people through things. By imagining it as someone else’s problem, I can give myself advice based on logic and not my emotions
oh thats not a bad idea actually thanks. ill just say what’s bothering me here. so to start off i have pretty nad daddy and abandonment issues right and usually when talking to men try to prepare myself for the inevitable time they’ll leave but i always seem to fail and most of them just ghost me and not talk to me anymore and ofc i wanna know why but asking doesn’t help because well they’re liars(they never bring up that anything’s wrong and like after a first date say it was fun and we talk normally and then bam i get ghosted) and i know it shouldn’t affect me that much because i don’t even know them well enough but i just can’t stop thinking about them and its driving me actually insane. like i need SO LONG to come with terms that they’re just disserespectful and maybe it isn’t all my fault? Like i always start thinking okay what did i do wrong what can i do to fix this (also a people pleaser) when i don’t think i shoul fix anything about myself but when im with guys i abandon my morals and stuff i believe in just so they’d like me. and when im appart from them i realise that and im like ew why did i do that but i keep doing it omg. idk if i shoul just steer clear of all men because they seem to bring out the most negative, toxic, self destructive emotions in me out and i just feel this boulder in my stomach thats teeling me im the one that screwed everything up and im wrong and im idek everything about me is bad basically. sorry it was so long it just kept going. but thank you for reading this if u did:)