Does the guy have to have a good family background to be a good man for you?
So I’m dating this guy and he has a lot of family issues that aren’t his fault but he treats me well. Although, my family is saying that I need to get a man that has a good family background and not a lot of trauma so they don’t drag you down but he hasn’t done any of that. He tells me things and gives me advice to help me succeed. I guess the only downside is that I won’t get to go to his family stuff but I don’t feel like that matters. We can have a nice Christmas or whatever holiday together and we can go to my family things instead. He says he doesn’t care about their opinions and that he only cares about making me happy. But idk. Sorry to ask this on Christmas but I wanna know if I’m trippin
Depends.
Marriage is between two families, if his mom/dad is that much of a piece of shit then she/he can ruin your relationship.
But if he knows and is willing to just spend time with you, then it's not a big deal.
I think his family is his situation before marriage, once he's comfortable he might tell or explain or take you to see them. If you...... 2 reply
If people started marrying based on family background then I'm cooked, tbh I don't care much about a significant's other family, the relationship is solely between me and them, and if their family is not supportive i couldn't care less, we can make our own family in a few years and just cut everyone off, there are many people who live like that and...... reply
I feel like these things stop mattering completely once they're estranged from their family. If the family was full of people who gamble, then there's a difference between a boyfriend who gives them his money and a boyfriend who just hangs around them sometimes. If your boyfriend barely wants to spend time with his family, then you have no reason t...... reply
I wanna say yea as people turn out alright despite the hand they were dealt with from birth. However, from my experience dating someone who didn’t have the best relationship with their mother (and their family in general but specifically their mother), a lot of their behavioral issues got passed onto me. It wasn’t the best and despite having ma...... reply