Hey guys. So I don't use this thing that much and (today) when I did I accidentally put this thing in the New Year's resolution section... I'm not going to be as detailed as my old (now deleted one) but, I've fallen in love for the first time. I know this all will sound very weird so if you judge me I don't blame you. Just please help
I became friends with some of the people they are friends with, but I am not close with this person. This person is really popular and they're already really in love with someone (for a couple of years now). The person they like is actually on super high levels of popularity like a celebrity. This person does not directly know them though. After they broke up with their ex, they started to be really open about their love for them. At first, when they started talking about this person I didn't mind. But, now it's hard for me to hear them talk about them. When this happened, I realized that I was in love. I was in denial and I wish I still was. But whenever I see them, I feel like I fall in love with them more.
I don't know what to do. I feel like these feelings are killing me. I know that a relationship with this person would never be possible, so I should just unfollow them and move on but I'm hesitant. I know that I would just ruin everything if I even tried. I'm sorry for putting this on a manga site but I really don't know who to go to
I really hope I didn't put this in the wrong section this time
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You sound young. I promise, trying is better than not trying. It's okay to be subtle (if you're worried about the fallout). Like "Can we hangout? I'm really interested in (one of their hobbies you like) and I think it would be fun for you to help me get into it" or whatever.
Don't stare at your wall in a decade wondering "what if?" Wing it. Get to know them, at least, if possible. Put your hand or foot in that door and keep it open. If they're so popular or amazing, they're used to it and won't think it's weird if you try to talk to them. If they go "nah, I'm busy" then they won't even blink and you can try later.
You're. Not. Losing. Anything.
Don't live wondering what *could've* happened. Be honest with yourself and what you do. I'm here for you, boo.
this may come off as insensitive and its not the reply you asked for, but when you couldn't stand hearing your crush talk about popular person, couldn't it have been that you were just annoyed by it? Why did you conclude you were in love by that? Its extremely easy for our brain to trick us into having a crush on someone by making us focus on their good parts and ignoring all their bad parts, you get over a crush but when you're actually in love with someone you come to love their good parts as well as bad parts, is that the case with you? If so, then the best thing to do is to confess, you never know what might happen, and you don't have anything to lose, you might say you'll lose the friendship but if you :
a) never confess and keep being friends -
It'll keep hurting you to the point you'll start hating them, and they'll be affected by it even tho it wasn't their fault.
b) never confess and ghost them -
They'll lose a good friend without knowing the reason and may think they did something wrong even tho they didn't. You never know they might accept your feelings and maybe eventually reciprocate them back and even if they reject you, at least you'll have closure and you'll be able to focus on moving on.
Have faith in yourself, if they don't like you back, its their loss, you'll find someone else who likes you just as much as you do.