" I thought it was funny and didn't think it would affect you that much" so you are saying they overreacted okaaay
"it was obvious considering the difference" same thing. like omg you were so dumb to take it seriously and make a big deal outta nothing
overall it;s like saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" aka the world-famous assholery faux-apolog......
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ayo /genuine the last part if i wanna make my apology sincere to someone and make sure they know i understand their feelings and not glossing over it, thats like a bad statement to say? may i ask how? im not the op of this post but if u dont mind explaining im curious
you seem like a good person :] so basically when you are saying you are sorry the other person feels the way they do, you are saying that you are sorry they took your words/actions a particular way instead of admitting you did/said something wrong. you are not actually apologizing for what you did when you say that. and it can also be offensive because if you don't see a fault in your actions, you apologizing is like... you are trying to appear to be a bigger person in the situation. "I don't really see where I was wrong, but fine, someone has to do the right thing, I guess I'll do it! if you think I did wrong well I'm sorry you feel that way! I don't agree but welp. let's make up, stop sulking, geez, I'm already being so magnanimous here...even though I wasn't at fault I'm still humouring your little silly tantrums"
p.s. when we feel unable to admit to our mistakes in most cases it is caused not by us being bad ppl, but by underlying trauma. such trauma is acquired growing up for example with parents who never admitted to their mistakes and instead made you feel wrong all the time. like no matter what you did, you were wrong. it was always unfair. so around this topic can be a lot of pain