i don’t know how to feel.. (¬_¬)
for some background; this guy & i have known each for years, we both have admit our feelings way back but never have we never became a thing. we would ghost each other then come right back.
recently he came back & me being the dumbest person who can’t place boundaries responded after telling everyone i was over him. which in a way i was but i held care for him as a person always.
he’s in the military, he’s been sending me letters for weeks now and never fails to mention how he wants to make things right & how be wants to see me.
he texted me a couple hours ago, talking about how he’s coming back for christmas & mentioned how this friend of his could hook him up a MOTEL for him & i. he said we could exchange gifts & all we wanted to do.
my gut sank & i have no idea if im overthinking it or not. i felt a bit disappointed & disrespected in a way— i have no idea if thats all he has in mind… he’s changed a lot & i have no idea what he’s like in person anymore.
i haven’t gotten opinions from friends because im scared of their judgement. i dont mind anonymous opinions though :( pls let me know if its just me overthinking it.
Red flag big humongous red flag. Like maybe a restaurant... idk a teeny concert but a motel?!?!?uh-uh
You don't know who he is anymore, which means that he doesn't know who YOU are EITHER.
Now what does that leave you to be to him? An idea---> a concept---> a body.
you are completely valid in feeling hurt. But you're responsible for your safet......
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Well I think u already know that he is expecting to do smth sexual. If you think it's way too soon or it isn't the type of relationship u want, don't go. But if that's what u want from him too, go and have fun. But from the way I see it, that's not what u expected and also not what you're looking for in a relationship. If so you're gonna regret it ......
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As long as you guys like each other and there’s no cheating or anything, nothing else should matter, right?
Edit: wait I didn’t read it correctly. If you feel like he’s disrespecting you and he’s don’t something thats made you feel negative like now more than once, don’t get with him anymore.
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The motel says it all. He chose that of all places. Like wtf? Either ask what his intention is or tell him no you don’t feel comfortable with that
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Personally, I'd be really put off if a motel is the first thing a guy mentions for Christmas plans. It sounds like he's only reaching out because he's lonely wherever he's deployed. In my experience, almost-relationships that fizzle in and out like this are rarely worth it. There's a reason why things never get serious and if you do get together, t......
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go meet him and decide.
I think people can change drastically sometimes, and he might have some alternative situation that makes it so that he needs to meet you like this. Communicate with him your worries politely, and just try to get some explanation from him. I don't think neither of you have any sort of major issues, it might just be some sor......
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Listen up. It's totally understandable to feel a bit confused and maybe even hurt. You've been through a lot with this guy, and it's hard to know what to expect now that he's back.
The motel thing... yeah, that's a little off-putting. It feels like he's jumping right back into the same casual, maybe even disrespectful, vibe you were trying to leav......
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