What’s your opinion on substance use

Like alcohol and drugs. Personally they used to make me uncomfortable cause I was raised to believe they’re harmful but ever since I met my bf 4 years ago he has drastically changed my view in them. There would be a span of time when he would rarely be sober and I felt like he was not really there consciously, I told him I did not like it but I also felt guilty asking him to dial it down since he was going through a lot of shit and it was when we used to only be friends. He has changed a lot ever since we started dating and he says it’s because of me but occasionally he still likes to hit it for the fun of it and sometimes I join him too. Use it in moderation ig!