how do people think homophobia is not a thing anymore?

I was reading the answers to the previous question, and reading how people say being gay is normalized and widely accepted surprises me every time; also, I find 'using labels weird because you are attracted to the people, not gender' is not a good take. No, people—I love women because they are women. I don't love them romantically; I'm attracted to them sexually. Yeah, I know that makes me your typical trashy straight man, but I can't help it. No matter how I try, I never have romantic feelings for people. I always hated it and felt guilty about it, especially with me being a woman. I know the feelings of being sexualized and objectified by other men, but I still do it to other women. So no, I'm attracted to women, and I will never be attracted to a man because I don't find them sexually appealing. Sue me for that—gender matters to me.

Also, homophobia is not a thing of the past. I will post resources in the comments, and then you can read them for yourself. In my opinion, you should read them. If you think homophobia is a thing of the past, you should educate yourself about how other queer people suffer around the world and get out of that bubble of yours. THERE ARE COUNTRIES THAT HAVE THE DEATH PENALTY FOR HOMOSEXUALITY.

Also, people are homophobic toward you not because of '10,000 genders,' but because they are that way. They are just trying to justify their homophobia and feel less bad about themselves. Instead of directing your hateful energy toward people who are actually hating you, you are blaming people who have done nothing wrong to you. I don't care about how people should label themselves, and I don't need to understand it. I will respect it because it doesn't hurt me or anyone else.

Homophobes and transphobes will find a reason to hate you either way.