Thoughts on getting engaged/been proposed to?
I wanted to ask a question over people's potential thoughts when they got proposed to like what was your reaction/feelings when it happened?
Reason I ask is I wanted some advice or just other personal experiences that people have had.
Before we start its a bit of a read ᕙ(⇀‸↼‶)ᕗ I've put a summary at the bottom.
Now I'm the kind of person that just goes with the flow, I always have, if I really don't agree I do state my opinions but for the most part I try to make sure everyone is happy. So... My partner of 3 years proposed to me whilst we were on holiday abroad which I know must have taken a lot of guts for him to do it (he's quite a nervous guy). My issue is my reaction to it all, my first thought was "what?!" Like I'm assuming most people it comes as a surprise but it wasn't a positive what, I don't fully know what I was thinking in those few seconds but he just stared at me and was like "so?" With a nervous expectant face. I said "yes" Now like my partner I'm also steeped in anxiety and that whole shabang and I'm my head for the rest of the trip I'm just thinking "holy crap, what do I do" ive never been great at trusting relationships (because of past experiences) and I put my feelings down to that thinking that I could push past it and get on with this new part in my life.
A year and a half later we are planning the wedding I've booked a venue got a dress etc and I'm panicking. I'm incredibly worried that I'm being silly and jumping into something I'm not ready for. The whole process of organising the wedding I'm not looking forward to any of it, even the dress shopping I just couldn't get into. I kinda feel like I know the answer in my heart but I'm scared that I'm being stupid, scared that I'm going to get rid of a relationship that I've been in for years now just for some doubts. He's such a nice guy as well, we have small fights like everyone but never anything serious, there's genuinely nothing wrong, I'm just worried that he loves me and I'm not sure of my feelings back.
Long story short...
I got proposed to panicked waited (way to long) thought I'd be fine and sort my self out. But still panicking... Help... ( ･﹏･)
I do think that sometimes, and actually for all the time, but happiness is the first thing that you should think about when you're in a relationship with someone. So......HAPPINESS RIGHT?!! You don't have to be lovers, in a relationship, nor even friends! But I think if you really think about the other person's feelings and to make your time togeth......
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23 05,2020
Thanks for these responses they have really helped, I see what you mean that I'm feeling like it's just the next step, like most people I'm assuming they get asked by friends and relatives "ooh when are you two going to tie the knot".
I think a conversation may be best, I don't want to worry him but I feel like keeping it all in is just going to ......
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23 05,2020
I feel like you need to just tell him that you dont feel ready yet, and you need time to yourself to think about it. Try going back to your parents house, visit and spend some time to yourself. When you feel ready try talking to him and think of what to do next.
If you still need time, just tell him. Whatever you feel is important and should be t......
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13 06,2020
My mother told me once to never marry someone who isn't really enthusiastic about marrying me. I feel that that should go in the reverse direction too. I know you don't want to hurt him but the best route is to be honest. At this point hurting him is unavoidable. The only thing you can control at this point is how much you hurt him.
This is al......
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13 06,2020
hey! i’m sorry you’ve been experiencing anxieties about ur wedding :(
but if you’re not so sure about your feelings, maybe you should look over your time together and think about WHY you’re marrying your partner + why you’re with them. perhaps you’re concerned about the wedding and the idea of getting married rather than the aspect of y......
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22 05,2020
I think you should be honest with him :/ tell him your anxiety around the wedding isn't letting you enjoy the process. Try to pause the planning while you figure yourself out... I don't know you but from reading this I feel like your just being strung along because its the next thing to do. He proposed so obviously the next step is planning the wed......
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22 05,2020
