how long did it take for u to move on?
he's my first love, like literally. cuz when covid i was just a weeb who never socialized, so he was the first guy i got close to. i was friends with him from 2020-2024, but in january he suddenly acted sweet to me? so yeah let's just say we became a situationship... but in february he ghosted me, i don't know what my fault was, because we still talked as usual, he never replied to my texts anymore. But he still sees my stories, and always posted on Twitter. so... never mind, i guess we're just not meant to be. 9 months have passed, but i still dream about him often. i'm confused, do i still like him? not really. but i'm always happy when i hear something about him. I forgot to say, that me and him are online friends. for 4 years, we never met. but yesterday I went to a basketball game, and I saw him, and he saw me. i'm sure he still remembers me, but it's like we both decided to pretend to forget, hahaha. it's unfortunate that our 4-year friendship just disappeared, even though if me and him were still friends, I would be very happy to greet him there. in the end, i just accept all these feelings, it's okay if i can't move on. he's my first love, after all.
I'd love to know your experience with this, and what you think of my story lmao.
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Hey man , my whole first love experience was also kinda shitty.
He was my senior and I liked him for almost 4 years even though we never ended up having anything. Ngl I had several boys I liked while still liking that guy. fast-forward it's been 7 years and I think I have fully moved on from him (been lyk a month).
Well , not just him but I also had many situationship I wasn't fully over with .But now I can say I AM FULLY OVER THEM after 7 years haha.
I think you can't really force yourself to move on from someone.I mean few months ago, I was having dreams about my ex and it used to drive me crazy nuts.
I would honestly be crying a lot or having so many mixed emotions if I was in your situation tbh. A simple one sided love had me crushed for 7 straight years , Ig it depends on people but you are a strong one
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Dw friend , as long as you give yourself time to grow and enjoy life , you will be able to meet and have so many wonderful experiences!! Also you sound like an amazing person!! There will be so many people who will be happy and thrilled to be a part of your life so just live your life ((✯ᴗ✯) )
damn that helped me a lot, thank u so much. now at least i know that moving on is not that easy (︶︿︶)
You got this sis ,(づ￣ ³￣)づ
Ah yes, the woes of situationships that become the heartbreak of many ppl in this generation. Honestly, my advice for people would be to AVOID situationships. Imo it's like settling for less when you can already be exclusive and in an actual committed relationship, especially if that is something you are wanting. But I'm sorry that things didn't work out. One thing for sure is I wouldn't want to say that it's your fault he ghosted you. Sure, there were some things that you may have unknowingly did that may have upset him, but who hasn't ever done that? That's why communication exists. Despite being friends for 4 years, it was wrong of him to just ghost you without an explanation if he did care for you as a friend at the very least. Idk how far of a situationship you guys were, or how much you guys knew you were mutually interested in each other, but I think it would have been interesting for you to have reached out to him back then to ask why he was so distant. From his explanation (or if he would even have one), words and actions should align, because other than that, it'd honestly just be a lie. So depending on his response, you would at least get an answer, even if vague, on whether he did still like you romantically. And I'm sure you did love him, and it's completely understandable to think about him and what you guys could've been. But yeah, some things are just not meant to be. If he no longer wants to be part of your life, let him go. Don't ever make ppl stay in your life. Those that will stay will stay, and those that don't, won't. You deserve better than some half-ass who isn't serious abt having a relationship with you.
thanks for ur reply, i feel a lot better now lollzz