People Pleasing at work?

I need some advice about a work situation. I’m not a people pleaser—I’m pretty blunt and straightforward. My sister agrees with that, so I’m confident I’m not just imagining things.

Recently, my account director hinted that I’m trying too hard to please my manager, which shocked me. I don’t see it that way at all. I try to get along with my manager because we work super closely together and she can be quite toxic. I’m just trying to make the work environment less stressful for myself.

One issue I have is that I don’t address things that bother me, like when she gives me tasks and then does them herself. I usually just get them done quickly to avoid conflict. I didn’t even realize this was a problem until a coworker mentioned they had similar issues with her.

Am I coming off as a people pleaser by trying to get along with her? Is there a way to handle this without making things worse or being seen as a people pleaser? I’m feeling pretty stressed about it and could use some perspective.