ADVICE
y'all please i need an advice asap. so basically i have a friend who did me dirty so many times like 4years ago but i was too dependent on her so i couldn't let go of her. then time passed and in 2022 i decided to stop being friends w her. eventually i texted her in late 2022 and we've been friends again since then, BUT. i met a guy who i kinda like and we've been talking for more than a year now, and i've been telling my friend about him every time we call. 2 weeks ago we were talking about him and she asked me if she could follow him, i said yes (i shouldn't have clearly) and then 2 days ago i saw MY BOY FRIEND IN OUR DC GROUP!
so i was like what???? and my friend added him wo me knowing. ( there's like 1000 pics of me bad pics essentially !!!!) so i called our dc grp and he also joined.
we talked a lot etc and then after like 3hours, my friend showed us her ancient insta post and stories. (js so u know since i could see her insta and her conv i literally saw my boy friend in her last conv so it means they've been talking wo me knowing ). so she showed us and i was like girl no please don't there's photos of me and i'm really insecure. she didn't care and started to show everyone in the go photos of me from a year ago or things she put in her private insta story. i started sobbing and crying so hard and went quiet. then she stopped and they were like « are u ok? what's wrong » GIRL U SRS? she literally humiliated me in front of my boy friend but ok. and hahahah
wait that's not the worst part. she asked him if he wanted to play w her and they played for hours together just them. i hung up and cried myself to sleep. since then i've been distancing myself from him and everyone cuz i know it's over and he's gonna chose her now. well.. i was right. today i was on insta and oh! i saw her insta private story, she added him. he also added her in his. and ??? she posted some conv w him in her story, and photos of them playing games. he also did the same. am i tripping????? so i started crying and texted her « wtf?? » then she's like « what » and i said « nvm » and she replied « do u like him? »
LIKE GIRL
anyways sorry for yapping but idk what to do should i just distance myself from everyone block her block him? idk and js so u know i also met a guy in 2020 was OBSSESED w him for 3 years and they flirted and called each other for a whole year while i still liked him.
he unfollowed me but he's still following her, he also said « i wanna see u » and she replied « me and seabi? » and he said « what? no just you »
like …. can you NOT steal my friends ? especially my boy friends please. these are the only 2 boys i’ve ever talked w. and she stole them both. js to let u know, she has so many friends and so many boy friends, but no she HAS to talk to my friend ofc right. i hate myself
dude im just gonna give it to you straight.
theres nothing that anyone here can say and do for you to leave them if you cant fix your attachment issues. honestly ill say good riddance because now you know whos really not your genuine friends and that the guy will probably end up being a cheat so its a good thing he was found out early.
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25 08,2024
goodness I could only imagine how ur feeling. I'd say to block both of them or something, distance yourself and use that time to heal cause wtf
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25 08,2024
Now that's like a pattern yk like she's doing it on purpose atp, just cut her off actually CUT BOTH HER AND THE GUY and I know that's hard cause like even I have attachment issues but people like her are so not needed in your life, you should be living to the fullest??? Not letting people like her get the best of you! It's honestly so frustrating ......
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25 08,2024
u should kill them /hj. but really, you gotta block both of them from everything, it won't do you good to see them having fun around themselves especially your "friend". where the hell did she get the nerves to ask you " do you like him" when you've been talking about him in your calls??? one would automatically think you have a crush on him. i'm s......
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25 08,2024
hmm reading ur replies... i just wanna say stop defending ur so called 'friend' and stop gaslighting urself that she didnt know whats she's doing whatever. Well fo its easier to cut off a friend rather than making urself suffer from all of that. Free urself from them. You dont need them, you can clearly saw they treated you. Im just saying. Sorry f......
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25 08,2024
yea naw dont stand for this, she knows exactly what shes doing and this is a cycle. she knows how to get to u and its not worth staying, cut her off asap and don't look back. i know exactly how u feel.
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25 08,2024
i am sorry but do yourself a favor and through the trash. keeping trash around will only make your mental health worse. Never trust people that do you dirty they are gonna do it again people dont change.
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25 08,2024
0nly one word in my mind while reading this, "ABANDONMENT". Yeah, abandon her. No, that's too cruel to say. Let go of her, find a new one/s who are better than her. The way you describe your friend pisses me off tbh. Yeah, nuh uh. If I were in your shoes, I would silently and/or immediately cut off ties with her 'cuz I'm sure that this will keep on......
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25 08,2024
Wtf leave her and the guy, and when she still wants to be friends say no. She clearly has some toxic attachment issues or something. Make her feel alone.
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27 08,2024
they literally follow each other everywhere tell me it’s a joke please i really am a clown
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25 08,2024
