Should I Break Up??
Serious question I've had and I need some advice honestly...
I've recently started dating this girl, it has been perhaps about 4 months and things aren't looking too well. One of the reasons is because of the quarantine and then there are some emotional reasons, some really petty reasons but overall I just don't know what to do. Personally, she is the first person I have ever dated. She, on the other hand, has dated others before me. Mostly other girls as she thought she was lesbian before we met....something I'm just really confused about but she's never made me not feel like she doesn't like me. So I dont see that as a problem.
Because of the recent quarantine that has been affecting everyone everywhere around the world, the whole issue of not going to work is causing her a lot of stress, she is not someone that can be at home. Not at all, she prefers to go out and do things outside rather than stay inside the house and play video games or watch movies/series. So we clash a lot in that sense. Which really doesn't bother me, we can compromise most often. However, when it comes to doing certain things, like go watch a movie she likes I will try to say no if I don't feel up to it but she will still force me to go. But when its vice versa she just rejects entirely, I thought that perhaps she would want to do the things I want eventually but she still doesn't and says she won't. At first I thought it was okay, I wasn't gonna force her and then again I thought it would be good for me to try new things. I mean I try to show interest in the things that she likes but she doesnt want to show interest in the things that I like, not only that but I feel like she judges me for liking anime/manga and other things that relate to that. I know some people arent interested in it, and shes told me that she has no problem with it but just wont go out of her way to try and watch it or read it. But at this point I feel like I'm stuck.
Then there's the whole thing of dating and living together....the earliest she wishes to move in together is 6 months and the latest would be 1 year...I don't know about that. To me I would expect at least 5 years before moving in together, to me that is enough time to get to know someone...but when I say that she just laughs and says no, that's not what we're doing. Honestly to me that's just a lot of stress and I've tried talking to her about it...she won't change her mind even so, I mean that doesn't bother me but more so just puts stress on me and I wish she could take into consideration how I feel about it.
I really don't know what to do, like I've tried explaining to her countless times about things like those or about how I'm allergic to dogs and, she has a dog, she has it sleep on the bed all the time so I'm constantly having problems with sleeping when I go over to her house. I mean...these arent exactly big big problems but I'm constantly stressed about what I could say to her to make her try to understand. Or, because I'm not the most affectionate guy, I'm constantly watching what I say to her because she's very sensitive and cries for a lot of things...which is fine, I get she's just a little sensitive I have no problem with that. But all I'm ever really doing is apologizing and comforting her...
Well anyway, I just need some advice or if I can do something or if I just need to break up with her. I mean I would prefer not to since I do like her, but I feel like I just wasn't prepared for dating yet. Or at least I don't want to move at the pace she wants to move at.