Rant about my friends with question at end
Disclaimer that this might not make sense cause I’m kinda just ranting so yeah
So I’ve been trying to plan a group birthday for me and two of my other friends (I’m April but we were studying for finals and the other two are June but we all were busy) and in general most of my friends are being sooo annoying god. I have a friend group of around 5-8 depending on who you include, but the number would be 5, excluding me for it. All my friends were pretty busy because they work on the weekends and that’s chill, but I asked them for their schedules constantly and they wouldn’t reply, just send pictures of memes and stuff. Then I would ask my friends what worked best for them and it was no weekdays so I was like cool, but they wouldn’t tell me what weekends worked, so I went through each weekend and made about 3 different plans with maybe 5 alternatives for each weekend cause I prefer it to happen in July (I do plan things normally and they do often do this but before they weren’t as busy so it was easy to say yeah it’s this and being this so we can do this and they’ll be like cool), and I finally reached that we could have a sleepover on Saturday after 5-7 that went into Sunday and those who went to church or had work could leave early if they needed. It hardly conflicted with anyone and I didn’t mind the plan, it was super annoying because no one was replying or giving me any info for it.
Well today two od my friends contacted me, acting like I didn’t outline the plan for them. They were like “let’s do this because why not” and I had to say “we can’t because, again, for the third time, we do not have this”, so I was a little annoyed at the time. Then my other friend hit me up and literally fucking asked “there’s a party ?” And I asked her if she was being serious and then said I wasn’t talking to her for the time being and I know it’s childish but I was just so fucking pissed because I went over this multiple times with you and others in a group chat that you are capable of reading and I was just so so annoyed. Then she said I can’t because for some reason it now it conflicts with her schedule but she was never clear with her schedule in the first place she’s just say “I’m free Saturday and Sunday” and when I would ask the specific date like what number she’d just say “Saturday and sunday” so I didn’t know she was referring to a different one and I’m so pissed I can’t talk to her right now or I’ll actually go off on her and then she’ll only respond with a kirby picture of him cutely running and I’ll actually go feral. Now I don’t even know if I want to have the joint party out of spite.
Long story short, I’m pissed at my friends for not working with me to plan a party, and now I’m not sure if I should have the party because I’m just annoyed at this point
Tbo you put a lot of thought and effort into this and they neither care nor appreciate it, and overall seem very disinterested in the entire thing. If this is how it usually plays out, with you planning everything and them just saying yes and no, it might be that they grew bored and maybe even sick of the dynamic, and are now taking everything for ......
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Tbo you put a lot of thought and effort into this and they neither care nor appreciate it, and overall seem very disinterested in the entire thing. If this is how it usually plays out, with you planning everything and them just saying yes and no, it might be that they grew bored and maybe even sick of the dynamic, and are now taking everything for granted. You should consider talking about how it made you feel and hear their POV too, in person rather than over text, and maybe entirely drop the current plan, even if it would be a massive waste of your effort and time, and give them free reign to do it themselves, so they can experience what you're going through. If this leads to them not planing anything at all, and the entire concept just falling through, you will be made aware that they are just not people you should put such effort into, and find others to make friends with.
20 07,2024
This is not how it usually goes and trust I’ve planned a lot of things because we’ve been friends for over a decade, but I have a true pet peeve for being ignored (yes I’m an attention whore). I like planning the parties, and when I ask why they let me do it they basically say that they like that I’m organised. I don’t mind changing plans, or being unavailable, but this time they’ve just been annoying to work with and I don’t know why. Anyways, yeah I’ll talk to them about it, thanks