probably not the best place to rant but idrc at this point. im just frustrated because ... my father rlly is a good father but not a good person. i just wonder if you can be kind to me why be an asshole to other ppl?
ive just learnt that he was manipulating me so that i pity him ig? by lying to me that my mom had forced a christian relationship on him when he was catholic but that it wasnt the case at all: my mom revealed that she explicitly stated that she wont get wedded to him unless its a christian wedding and he agreed. he also was the reason why me and my ex broke up because he did some things that are not ok and scared him away.
idk man. its so easy for him to spoil me but i just cant understand why he cant be that kind to others. its just frustrating bc clearly you can be a good person but he just chooses not to..?
sorry yall my stress is just at an all time high and my friends are probably tired of me talking ab daddy issues
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Yeah, I kind of grew up with the same kind of "tricks".
To be honest, at some point, I just became too disillusioned by him. But then again, you know what they say: growing up feels like losing faith in religion.
Despite the fact that I wasn't directly on the receiving end of his behavior, I wasn't entirely protected from it either. You mentioned your father pulling some awful tricks on your ex, which made him leave you. Maybe your father thought he was protecting you in his own way, or he might really just be getting in the way of your relationships.
Either way, it's great that you're reflecting on his behavior and the effects it had on you and others. As long as you remain conscious of these issues is important but you shouldn't overthink it too much as well. I'm sure you'll come to a conclusion that works best for you in time.
Take care <3.
thanks for the kind words but idk what conclusion even comes best for me. that ex that he made leave me was just it yk? not saying that a relationship is my life but he just keeps ruining to good things and believes as long as hes the one replacing/providing the good things itd be all forgiven. i just dont want to live like that, just constantly having to get good things ripped away because he believes hes protecting me when clearly hes not..
time will pass, i guess.. thanks again for the reply though, comforted me even if a little