My family projecting bad family members unto me and sis

a little background , so my aunts are very bad (the ones from dad'd side ) they are wrecking havoc everywhere , causing so much distress and headache on our lives , apparently as my dad says that his father used to favor the girls and left them to their ways while he was strict on him , they are a patriachal society so technically speaking they weren't favored that much , he just paid attention to his eldest daughter and paid a lot of money for her college and education and she turnt out somewhat spoilt but here is the catch , my dad used to hit his sisters and sometimes smashing their faces , because they liked to shout and bring attention to themselves in arguments , they behaved rudely so dad took it upon himself to hit them when necessary (i am not condoning his actions nor am i reasoning or excusing his deeds, i love my dad he never hit me and he went to hell for our family but this aspect of him digustssss me ) my dad married my mom and they were extremely rude to her too , they threw her clothes , usually called her out for being an orphan and mom was extremely kind and naive , so she got traumitized especially from the eldest daughter (the supposedly spoilt one ) she was double faced and talked shit about her from her behind , while talking kindly to her face
so mom and dad moved and got me , unfortunately my face resembles this fuck-faced aunt and i got a lot of her manners ( i sometimes get jealous from my brother , i study a lot , i got into medicine like her , i am opinionated ) but in a good way so i am not mean or rude , so i grew up and got out of the phase of jealousy and now i love my small brother ( he isn't that small , he is a teenager) but anytime i advice her to let learn to cook or to clean after himself ( i have a sister too and i also advice mom to teach her shit ) she gets pissed about it and shouts at my face with the name of my aunt , saying that i will turn out like this spoilt brat , and cause problems for my brother in the. future that i am a snake and not to be. truster , when she calms down she speaks to me normally and never mentions this again ( she did that when i was but a young child of seven or eight but it was more hysterical ), she usually excuses outbursts from me (extremly argumentative even when faced with her hysteria ) and from my brother but never from my sister ( my bro doesn't really. get angry but when he does , he speaks to her badly and without restraint and she doesn't react to this as she reacts to my sister when she arguments with her ) she excuses my brother sometimes bad manners because he resembles her dead brother whom she cherished a lot and she usually looks sad and disappointed when anyone mentions that i look like my aunt , sometimes even turning it into a competition , if i was good and friendly and play physical games with my brother , she tells me that he can hit me and smash me to pieces and that i am not better than him , even my brother cringes when he hears this shit especially when it is not provoked , she thinks i want my brother to fail , her idea of women loving their brothers is servitude , which i fucking hate especially when he is physically capable of doing it , if i was condoning his actions , she tells me that aunt name again and gets hysterical and angry for no fucking reason , i do it with a good heart especially when i care for my little siblings as if i would for my future children , she never stops even when we entered into many confrontations , that i am FUCKING DIFFERENT , now i can't even advice her on something regarding my brother or his wellbeing , if i critisize his actions she gets all hot and angry