I am frustrated

loner loner 2020-04-29 04:14:51 About get to know you
My family is Muslim and this is not about me but my twin older sister. She isn't the middle child but some what is for the girls. I have a lot of brothers and sister and my sister is the 3rd to the youngest and I'm second to the youngest. All of my sisters are already married and live far away with their family except for my older sister (named A) my twin older sister (named B) and me and my brothers have nothing to do with this. So, just A, B, and me, B is the middle child.

People involved are:
Older sis (A)
Twin sis (B)
Sis-in-law (I'll call her C)
Mom
Me (I'll call me D)

I'll have error but I don't care.

It was time to break the fast and B was asleep. My mom was calling my brother to come downstairs (brother doesn't eat with us. He just gets the food and goes somewhere else) and after he came I decided to go call B after my mom asked, "Where's B?" I went to the room she was sleeping and woke her up. (A, B, and me sleep in the same room) She went downstairs after me. Anyway, so we were eating and my mom says "B eat sambusa. (I don't think I spelled it right but I don't care) B says, "I did." and my mom keeps telling her to eat and my sis kept saying I did.

(This part is the most frustrating part because she keeps doing this to B and I honestly really hate this)

My mom says, "D is eating it so why don't you." My mom always does this whether it's about grades or cleaning and I hate this. She keeps comparing us two together and B hates that. Me and B don't really like sambusa (forgot to mention its an arabic food) we just eat it because my mom tells us to.

My sis-in-law says, "You don't eat sambusa. I'm gonna post it."(she was joking about it) "Sambusa and aseed (another arabic food) are the most important things for muslim." Forgot to mention that B gets super full easily and that's probably why she didn't eat (I get full super easy too).

A says, "How can you be a msulim when you don't eat sambusa in Ramadan."
C agrees with her. B doesn't say anything back. (A and C didn't say it like that. They were talking to each other about B)

I say, "I don't like sambusa." They probably didn't hear me though even though I kept on saying it multiple times. I have a quiet voice. We were finished by this time and B stand up and she was probably trying to put on a smile but it wasn't really working says something. (I didn't hear what she says. She probably said "I'm going to pray" or "I'm going to the bathroom.") I think her feeling got hurt. She has low self-esteem and it probably went even lower. I don't know what happened after that with her but she probably cried and I'm going to repeat I don't really know if she cried or not but she PROBABLY did. After we were finished cleaning mom, A, and C goes to pray and B comes down and sweeps the floor (it's her job to sweep the floor). I felt really bad for her. I went to my room waiting for A to get out of the bathroom since I needed to wudu (wash myself before praying) and B comes upstairs and I don't know if she was using her phone or she was trying to sleep.

My mom comes to the room and says something like, "Your'e using your phone and won't go eat blah blah blah". (I forgot what she said.) After she left B went somewhere. I don't know where she went. My mom is worried about her but shows it the wrong way. I feel bad for B because she gets the blame for most thing.

ANOTHER Frustrating thing that happened at 4 in the morning:

People involved:
Me (D)
Older sis (A)
Twin sis (B)
Sis-in-laws husband, aka my brother (E)
Mom

We eat at 4 a.m. because of Ramadan.
I went downstairs and ate and mom was trying to open our room to tell them it was time to eat. B was asleep and A was awake. I was outside of the room because I already finished eating and older brother was there trying to tell them to go eat. A pretends like she barely woke up and opens the door. E says to go eat and A says she already did. E says to B to go eat she says she already did. I forgot some stuff because he kept on telling her to go eat. She says she will. I tell her to just go eat and then I remembered she was wearing pjs (clothes she never wear during the day time). So I say okay E go outside and he says don't listen to her. I was going to tell him she needed to change but he was already outside so I couldn't. B gets really frustrated at this point and changes and then goes eat something. My mom starts scolding B but I couldn't hear what she said. I got annoyed because I just realized that A was the one who locked the door and mom and E thinks it was B. They think that because B always stays up late. But, she didn't this time. B comes upstairs and argues with A. I take B side and tell A that she should have told the truth. We argue some more and then go to sleep.

I don't really remembered what happened.

I just start thinking something like it's still lying even if you don't say anything. A doesn't want to get in trouble so she doesn't say anything resulting in B getting in trouble even though it isn't her fault.

Sorry for the long rant. I was just feeling frustrated.

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DiVsF April 29, 2020 7:27 pm

I think you should tell your mother every situation that hurts B. She probably ended up hate her siblings.

Sassysadist72 April 29, 2020 4:59 am

Bro i love sambusa but my siblings always judge me when i eat it cause im not fasting this week (if u know u know) and my parents always nag about eating suhor like sorry i dont feel hungry at like 4 #-.-) btw we argue some more and then go to sleep is the story of my life

Kuro_nabi April 29, 2020 4:34 am

I barely understood what you're saying first what the heck is sambusa because i am muslim too but i never heard of it second i know it is in most arabs's culture to nag about eating but and i know it could get annoying but to cry because of it and have this whole argulent about it seems absurd to me . Anyway i understand your frustrations because honestly growing up i had theses days too and i would cry everyday now that im in the dorms because i see my family so little we get along pretty well because they miss so i think this will pass for you too

Silver April 29, 2020 4:31 am

So I think it is good you defend your sister try to help her stand up for herself. And I dont mean be rude or anything why do you and your sister try to calmly talk to her together and tell her how you both feel.

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