Me and my friend were talking about relationships and she mentioned she can't see me having a boyfriend. What am i supposed to do with this information?? Do i feel insulted, yes greatly, should i be?? Idk. can people learn not to be unconsious assholes
Hey it might just not be an insult ok? Perhaps you don't focus on dating much or don't give off the in a relationship vibe. But yeah don't mind it much and ngl it does sounds like an insult lol but since she didn't cared much you also try not caring much about it (if u do wanna get a bf then Goodluck pookie!!) reply
Ask her why she said that and tell her clearly that whatever she said hurt you. Its very important to set boundaries. If you dont, maybe she will say much more hurtful things to you in future. reply
if u took it that deeply then confront her about it? people dont understand our intentions just as much as we dont understand theirs;
as u grow up always remember that good communication and comprehension is key to a long lasting relationship/friendship,
if ur friendship cant withstand allat then cut her off? being alone is more fun imo reply
Ummm..... its definitely a backhanded comment - I've been told that loads of times; I think sometimes people mean it in a "omg you're so independent!!! No partner can hold u down!!!!" But sometimes people are really sneaky and say these things in forms of a joke but actually mean it deep down. I'd say ask her what she means, bc she may mean that sh...... reply
idk abt others but when i get told that i take it with pride like "wow they think im independent"
so yea imo she might not have meant it in a negative way reply
Sounds more like a you problem than a her being an asshole problem. Maybe you should like, ask her what she meant instead of marinating in bad feelings cause it's most likely not an insult and you're calling your friend an asshole unwarranted. To me, yeah, you don't sound like you're mature enough for a boyfriend/romantic relationship if you can't ...... reply
Wait. I've said this to people. LOL I never realized it could be seen as an insult. I am someone who is very comfortable being by myself, so I don't really see being single as something to be ashamed of. So when I've told people "I can't imagine you with a bf", I've always meant it as a "I can't imagine you living differently from how you are rn". ...... 1 reply
She might not've meant it in a bad way, but you could ask her to specify what she meant. My friends (and everyone in general, people don't really like me) constantly insult me and I've found the best way to deal with that kind of stuff is to just be straight up and ask them to explain why they said that. It's better than dwelling on it by yourself ...... 1 reply
she prolly didn't mean it in an offensive way. if you feel insulted then tell her and establish some boundaries while at it. if you can't be straightforward then say it as a joke. like- "don't say that. it might come true! i wanna have a boyfriend" or smth like that. don't take it to heart. she most likely did not mean it in a literal sense.
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