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Since senior high school, I was backstabbed by my circle of friends, then right now in college I put distance between me and my classmates eventually I got alone and I don't know if it's good or not because it's not really a hindrance for my grades but I miss hanging out sometimes with others after school. Basically the trauma I got when I was in senior high school got me loner in college. ╥﹏╥
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Hi! I'm sorry to hear that you've been betrayed by those close to you,but you shouldn't beat yourself up over not getting over that trauma,understandably it's not easy to forgive and forget. I dont consider myself as a social butterfly,and it was hard for me in college to make and maintain friendships and it's something I struggle with daily. Even so,if you want to get to know some of your classmates,as in you have someone in mind,and you think there is a possibility the two of you could hit it off,it never hurts to try and make conversation about the eg the course you are taking,the professors there,the campus life. My little trick when I want to speak to a person for the first time i first make myself known,a quick introduction then a give a sincere compliment,about an eg nice glasses they have or elegant shows they are wearing,though keep it mind you should not over do it,that they dont misunderstand it as flirting and it might not work on everyone,but it hasnt failed me so far,bc a sincere compliment makes a person,even for a second put their guard down. After that you can ask what you want,be it if they have the study material you need or whatever,and always wear a smile on your face. I'm not quite sure if my advice will help you,I've been lucky enough that a pair of extroverts found me interesting enough that they adopted me and take me everywhere on campus. I hope that you will soon end your loner life and find a honest friend to share your worries with ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~