Am I scared or not ?
Hello!
Since last year I think, I started having a really disturbing feeling when I'm around men. It can be anyone: my father, my brother, a friend, another family member, a stranger in the streets. Really. Anyone.
It starts with an unpleasant feeling. I want to leave, to get away. Then my heart starts beating faster. I get stomachache, I want to puke, my mind becomes dizzy and my entire body shivers.
Maybe it sounds idiotic, but I don't know why these things happen to me. It only happens around men so one day, while thinking about it, I asked myself if I was scared of them or not.
That's why I'm asking here.
Obviously, the feeling is more or less strong depending on the person I'm with. I'm ok when I'm with my father, my brother or a friend. It mostly worsens when I'm around some people in my family (like my uncle) or when strangers in the streets or anything are too close to me.
I don't know if these I get these strange feelings because of everything that has happened to me with men.
I don't know how to stop these horrible feelings, and I don't want to talk about it with anyone by fear of being laughed at because this seems ridiculous....
I dont know if you have past trauma, but the same thing started happening to me 2 years ago. Whenever people in general would get close to me I would feel immense fear for some reason it didn't matter what gender however I was most sensitive to guys. I could talk and be close to girls but if they tried to hug me or touch me I would get scared, for ......
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23 04,2020
i searched up fear of men phobia, which is called Androphobia, and i think you might have it, since the symptoms link up like you said you become dizzy and wanting to puke. A way to stop it, is to understand it first, and note what makes the feeling activate, and when you done that, little by little do things that involve men in a way like looking ......
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23 04,2020
Hi
The feeling you feel for men is perfectly normal, you have every right to feel that way. Everybody has at least experiences this, like me i sometimes have a fear of what the people around me might do to me even if they are family or friends, their is always something in the back of my mind that feels paranoid being near anybody. If this feeling ......
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23 04,2020
Have u had a bad experience around men or is this something that just manifested on its own? Think of the source of ur fear and then that should help u decide if it is reasonable or not. Also talk with a trust female adult. Perhaps they can give better guidance. In the end if ur fear is starting to get in the way of it daily functions and u can't g......
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23 04,2020
Hey there!
It's definately not something usual if you've had bad experiences with men before. The reactions you describe sound like common anxiety or panic symptoms. Someone mentioned androphobia, which could be it. Or it could be any other anxiety disorder, it depends on why and how this problem developed. The best thing to do now would be talk t......
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23 04,2020
I had a similar problem for most of my early life due to a history of being molested by my classmates from pre school till primary school. My fear of males was so bad that I would tell male classmates to stay at least two meters away from me or not to come close to me because I had developed a reflex of hitting anyone that I didn't like or knew who......
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23 04,2020
Same, I've been having that same feeling for months now as well. But, that was after my past experiences with them. I started becoming uncomfortable being around older men or boys. I won't go into much detail about what happen to me but I will do a summary of it!
-Was touched by my older brother's friend (I was about maybe 6,7,or 8 years old? )
- H......
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23 04,2020
Dear "Am I scared or not ?" --> learn TM!
I don't even have to guess i can bet $1,000,000 you have been molested/raped. You may have memory loss of a part of your childhood/ memory gaps. It's just surfacing now in this presentation as "fear of males"
You are innocent (the pervert is the one to blame). Get therapy! What you are experiencing NO ONE ......
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