Sort of a gl PSA
Posting this here cause I didn't know where else to, if you don't read gl/are straight you don't have to read this, but I'd appreciate it if you do.
Anyways, maybe something y'all might've noticed recently, but a lot of yuris these days have a sort of top/bottom dynamic, where typically one person is the one giving pleasure and the other is receiving it. This is how it is 100% of the time, and typically the bottom doesn't touch the top sexually. You can see this in manhwas like Show Me Your Bust, Bad Thinking Diary, Please Leave My House, and On A Leash.
Obviously there's nothing wrong with this, these roles exist in the real life lesbian community as well (stone tops and pillow princesses) and if you're into it, you can completely be satisfied both mentally and physically by it.
The thing with this though is top/bottom labels come from the gay community, where they define them as someone who likes putting their dick inside and someone who likes taking dick in the ass. And these make sense since people might have different preferences, and you can get pleasure either way. Though the adoption of these labels in the lesbian community usually aren't going to be as clear-cut or definitive, since female anatomy is different, it's not like we can just put our vulvas in someone else's vagina.
If you want to receive pleasure from your genitals as a cis female, normally you'd need to touch yourself there, except this may be seen as feminine/a bottom thing. And a lot of these gl authors like to display explicit top/bottom dynamic because of heteronormative views, and they want someone in a traditionally masculine sexual role and a traditionally feminine one. And if you want to keep this kind of gender roles in real life, I think it's fine if you understand the implications and it's consensual. Actually a lot of stone tops and pillow princesses like to do it. But I just wanted to say that this is not the only way to do things nor is it how lesbian relationships should be structured, and typically sex is more dynamic for us than with straight or mlm people. That's why it's especially important that if you want to use labels like top/bottom/vers as a wlw person, you define what you mean by it. Like some people consider dom/sub as the lesbian version for top/bottom, or some people base it on penetration. You can't just put "top" on your dating profile like in grindr and everyone will know what you mean by it. And most importantly you should never feel pressured to take on a label, especially to fit some kind of societal standard, or not try something you're interested in. If you want to find out more about your preferences, experimentation helps, and if not that be open-minded and critical. And never use fictional relationships as a blueprint. Personally, and this is going to be a bit of TMI, but if I had to, I would consider myself a top. I like giving pleasure and being in control, though I also participate in things like scissoring, using strap ons with vibrators attached, and receiving head. That's my definition, for my label. And this is kind of like the second kind of "top" showcased in gl comics, for example see Moon Haejin from The Third Party, Na Juyeon from Sadistic Beauty Sidestory, Sulhwa from Lillith, or Sera from Ruthless.
Well my overall point is that lesbian sex is a lot more dynamic than gay or straight sex. We have different anatomies so there's a different way of doing things, which everyone's gotta work out what they like best.
Also sorry if my english in this is bad, it's not my first language + I'm in STEM lol. Also I didn't talk much about trans perspectives since I'm not too knowledgeable in that area, but I would like to learn more/discuss about it. There's probably a lot more stuff I could say about this but it's really late at night, and I've been thinking about this for a long time so I just wanted to talk a little about it. If you have more to add please do.
