What do you think of yaoi/yuri as a LGBTQ+ person?

I am queer, and aware of the fact that I like women, whether I am bisexual, pansexual or a lesbian, is something I am still trying to figure out.That’s beside the point, but I want to know what other LGBTQ+ people think of yaoi and yuri.

Personally I read yaoi (and BL) despite barely having an attraction to men (maybe even not at all). Yaoi is usually “made for straight women” and yuri is “made for straight men” as we already know. So I thought I’d clear out some things first

I feel like reading about heterosexual relationships makes me feel weird about myself, but I don’t have any problem with straight people or heterosexuality. It’s just in hetero romances people never face “gay problems” like figuring yourself out, feeling “abnormal”, and coming out.

Not only that but I feel like I want to see couples that I almost never openly see be in a relationship. Straight people are everywhere in reality, and feel like BL is an escape from that.

I do sometimes like reading GL (I don’t read on here though), because it’s like “oh, that’s cute, I can’t wait to get a girlfriend too”, but I can’t ever really find “good” yuri. And with yaoi it’s more like “I’m never going to do experience this because I am not a man” so I can’t relate to it so it feels good to see relationships that do not relate to me. But obviously BL/yaoi are fiction and no where near like real life so it’s just for fun (except the rapey shit, I feel bad and don’t really enjoy that).

I wanted to know if other LGBTQ+ people felt the same or if you have had other experiences with yaoi/yuri. I just want to know more about people that I have some things in common with