Do I need a reality check?

I find myself questioning if I'm being hypocritical. I find alot of people that call themselves fujoshis gross. While I don't have an issue with reading BL or Yaoi and have enjoyed quite a few, truthfully even masturbated to some, I can't help but feel a sense of disgust when I hear some fujoshis categorize reallife men into either bottoms or tops. Moreover, I'm bothered by certain comments on this site, that seem to fetishize gay men in general and oversimplify real life struggles/ Issues. However, I wonder if I have the right to hold these opinions, considering that my list of read Yaois is four times longer than the one for GL. Being a queer woman, does that change anything or am I just a hypocrite?