Romantic relationships
Okay so, im really confused on what I want tbh.. I want to know if anyone else is having the same experience and can share some advice.
So basically, I am really confused on whether I want a romantic relationship or just something similar to the sort?
I dont want a sexual relationship, I hate kissing and the thought of having sex makes me afraid and disgusted. I want someone who I can rely on and in return they can rely on me. I want someone to hold close and to share my thoughts and feelings with. Someone who I can share words of affection with.
However, I haven't come even close to developing feelings for somebody and im afraid I never will. I am young (not disclosing my age for safety reasons ofc.) and im sick of people telling me I will eventually. Because if I’ve gone this long without even feeling attracted to some besides the normal ‘Oh, they’re pretty.’ What will even change in the future? Will i all of a sudden unlock romantic attraction after a certain age? Am i just not normal? I feel so frustrated and confused. I cant even tell my friends this because I feel they wont understand because they like other people have had feelings for other people and have dated before. I dont want to have to lie to someone to get these wants met, I want to feel loved and I want to love somebody.
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My feelings and perception about this have changed multiple times as I grew up but I feel like I’ve had a similar experience to you overall. I have been in romantic relationships before and my partners have been unhappy with my ‘lack’ of love, when I just feel like I will never be able to love as hard as others do. Sometimes I wonder whether ......
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17 01,2024
Since you're young I think you're just experiencing pressure into finding or at least feeling love, a bit of jealousy towards others your age having relationships can also play into account. I used to be like that so maybe we're the same, thinking that I wasn't attracted to anyone but in reality I was just in denial and didn't allow that bit of fee......
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17 01,2024
you can have this sort of dynamic with a close friend too ^^ not all close relationships have to be romantic and / or sexual. you can love somebody platonically and have it be just as close and meaningful as a romantic partner!
like others said, you're still young so don't stress it. focus on developing meaningful friendships! ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
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17 01,2024