sexuality crisis for the nth time
the first and last time i ever had a crush on a boy was like 9th grade. and even then, the thought of dating him did not really cross my mind. like it felt really wrong for sum reason. my friends also had crushes at that time and i felt left out not having one so i pretended to like a guy just to fit in lmfaoo.
tbh, the only thing i seek from guys is male validation and that feeling of being protected (i have daddy issues) i genuinely can’t see myself getting together with a guy hshshshs.
then a close friend came out to me as bisexual and i got curious as well so i took those “am i gay” tests with her lolol. i got bi-curious
during the pandemic, i developed a crush on a girl for the first time in my entire fucking life. AND IM TELLING YOU, IT JUST FELT SO RIGHT. like the feeling was legit incomparable to my guy crushes before. not even just dating, i was fr imagining my entire future with her.
i’m in college now and ive only ever been emotionally and physically attracted to girls since then. but i still don’t know what to identify as cuz having a label scares me haha. my friends are already convinced im a lesbian in denial and like NO thats too heavy a title for me like please. when i tell them that im lowkey attracted to a guy i swear they be thinking that im lying AND LIKE NO?! have u seen dem feminine guys?!! the more unattainable, the better .
just needed to vent, don’t mind me raahhh.
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I feel like u only are attracted to guys due to society as even the guys u like are more on the fem side
it’s a comphet thing apparently
Yea exactly
When I was 14/15 I also had a similar situation and I only advise you: Labels are cool, but not a necessity. I don’t go by any labels and just Date who I fall for regardless of gender. Sure people could say “But you are pansexual” but labels don’t sit right with me.
What I am saying is, don’t pressure yourself and when your friends assume your sexuality again or smth, tell them to stop because it makes u uncomfortable and it is rude. Queer people don’t want to be assumed as straight and straights don’t want to be assumed as queer so just don’t assume at all.
i love your mindset, this is so validating srsly. thank u sm!
I feel this way toooo.. I don’t want to label myself as a lesbian bc I’m unsure abt my attraction to guys. Figuring a label out is too confusing and can be stressfull. Sexuality is a spectrum so why do we need to fit ourselves in labels that don’t fully define us? Def take your time and don’t feel pressured to label yourself :)
righttt!?!? man, fuck labels. we like who we like!!
I know you're not looking for advice or input, so feel free to ignore this, but you absolutely don't need labels. You like who you like, and that's that. No need to explain it using categories - maybe you'll always feel resistance to labels, or maybe you'll eventually find something that clicks. What's the rush, anyway? You've got a whole lifetime to think about what suit you.
thank u! i needed this
You could just be a be bi but prefer girls over guys cus this was me too like I was convinced I was straight till the pandemic came around I realized I was bi but preferred girls over guys
ye, that’s what i tell ppl too when i cant be bothered to explain lol