am i a bad person?

real, feel like im tryna own my bestie, she cant hang out with others but i can (according to my feelings, i'd never act on these feelings tho) it makes me hate myself bcz i shouldnt be feeling this way- like i should be happy she has other friends but at the same time theres anxiety crawling at me screaming at me saying she'll forget me and we ......   1 reply

Yesn't   reply

That's what you call possessiveness. It can be unconscious, so being aware of your emotions toward that friend is needed to communicate your intentions better. It's toxic if you're aware but still trying to find excuses to gatekeep your friend from others further. That also can lead to manipulation. However, if your friend is okay with it, assuming......   reply

Being jealous is `fine but communicating is better than gatekeeping. Maybe tell your friend how you feel and if they’re a good friend they will reassure you instead of making you worry   reply

The feeling itself is unhealthy and toxic. And if you act upon it, make choices from that feeling, then that makes you a bad person. Let's say if I want to gatekeep my friend, I would say "I'm jealous of you having another friend other than me. I have to meet these people first and evaluate whether or not you can hang out with them without my super......   reply

I think so. Seeing her with other friends that are better at me at different aspects makes me so pissed off. I just want her to only look at me and talk with me.   reply