how to deal with an unrequited love?
back in middle school, a girl transferred into the class next door. i never welcomed her properly, but the first time i saw her smile was when i immediately knew i fell in love.
and i'm a former straight girl. moments after, this straight girl(?) found out they weren't as straight as they thought they were.
we became friends through mutual connections, and sure enough, we've only become closer friends through the years. i already came out to her and our mutual friends as pansexual, but what she still hasn't figured out is the fact that i still have feelings for her. well, hopefully she hasn't.
i'm sure she's as straight as a wooden plank, so i wanted to know how people dealt with unrequited loves who they never had a chance with.
What ever you do, please, please, PLEASE let them know you have a crush on them before you lose contact with them. I've learnt this from experience. It will eat you alive inside. Even if they reject you, at least you said it and it'll feel so much better then trying to fall asleep (for example) 3 years later when you no longer have contact with the......
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What ever you do, please, please, PLEASE let them know you have a crush on them before you lose contact with them. I've learnt this from experience. It will eat you alive inside. Even if they reject you, at least you said it and it'll feel so much better then trying to fall asleep (for example) 3 years later when you no longer have contact with them and all that is playing on your mind is how you could have been together.
(i am a gay guy for context)
Their was this guy in college, that i fell HARD for. We became the best of friends, always hung out together, always talked with each other. To the point where outsiders looking in would think we were together. I always wanted more to held back because i was scared he would be disgusted in me.
I would often catch him at parties making out with some random chick. So i assumed he was straight (it killed me inside when i catch him doing this).
We both left college early and fell out of contact due to life situations. I still miss him to this day (4 years later) My friend often says he had a crush on me, he treated me more like his partner then a friend. I was stupid and never saw this. I wish i had told him the truth. We could be together right now, but my stupid fears held me back (he could have reject me but at least this wouldn't still be eating me alive)
I have tried everything to find him, but he is forever gone. It hurts so much not knowing what could have been.
DONT EVER END UP IN MY SITUATION
17 03,2020
Ikr. I've been in unrequited love for almost 10 years. I am the Same as you who found out that the guy likes you too but too dumb to realize not until he's gone. Not telling the person about what you feel will just eat you up. REGRETS will eat you up and the what if's that lingers on your mind.
Unlike you whose been searching for him. I actually saw him after 5 years, he's got a girlfriend who he brought in our school reunion. Seeing him with a girl hurts, justine beibers song that "should be me"plays in my head. Now I just distract myself in work and read manga. I heard that the girl and him will get married and I didn't even got the invitation.