ive fallen for this boi who lack emotional intelligence
so basically I've met this boy who's really up to my standards. He's kind at first, so fair and handsome plus he's an architectural student. Months passed and I've realized I liked him. Even with his flaws and everything, I liked him. Maybe, Im inlove with him. There are certain moments where he's also giving signs that he like me too, or maybe I'm just reading too much on his actions. It sucks because I'm being delusional. Fast forward, it turns out he knows about my feelings but he didn't care about it.
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hello guys so basically what happened after that is I confessed to him. Straight to the point ' I like you' one. But it's funny how it happened because were literally drunk and thanks to my loose mouth I shouted to him ' Ill get over you u asshole'.....welp that's ACKWARD!!!!?????(($; so fast forward, he wanted to talk to me because of that so we talked. I confessed BUT i said that I'm not asking him to reciprocate these feelings. Its my own problem to solve and that im just confessing in order to put a stop to this. But what really struck me is when I asked him if did he found me interested and he answered 'yes'. Then i followed up with 'do you like me?' and he said, ' i dont know'. A deep silence ensued between us. Because at that moment we both know that something just been shattered into pieces and can't be glued back together; our friendship. Maybe it's a bad idea to fall inlove with your friend. But then it's better to love and lost thab to never at all. It's been 3 months since we talked. Ofc I still think of him, but not because I still like him but because I still care for his being. Goodbye to my first love that brings the best and worst out of me, cheers!
I know it's easier said than done, but being straightforward and upfront about it is the best way to go. Maybe he likes you back, maybe he doesn't, but you won't know until you ask. Or maybe ask him if he has a crush on anybody or something.
This happened to me once. To be honest, I was glad when he didn't know a thing. I was truly satisfied. I expected nothing. I wanted nothing. I was, well, happy during that one sided love period. But then the dreaded thing happened. A girl who used to be my best friend, went and said everything to that boy. They were texting each other, making plans together on how to humiliate me further. I had no idea but I also found it stranger when suddenly one day the boy I secretly liked was staring at me with that mischievous grin. I found out the truth and about these messages. And from then on, I just stopped looking for that boy. Stopped my friends from even mentioning his name. I stopped thinking about him. The next year, I changed schools. But I think it was my mistake to like him. I had never talked to him and had no idea about how his personality was. I never want to fall in love again.
Well, that's my experience. In your case, if he is a classmate, then obviously there's no way you'd be able to avoid him. I would suggest you to take it lightly. There's no harm in smiling and greeting him. Be brave. I know you'll be feeling hopeless inside but don't let him see that. Let him wonder, "Oh. Even after all this, she's still smiling." I know this ain't some shoujo manga, but there's nothing wrong with embracing the truth. Show him what he could've had.
Best of luck (づ￣ ³￣)づ
I agree with Kitten's advice. If you are really interested in him, you might as well take it a shot of confessing to him. Also, while confessing you can also ask what feelings does he have towards you and how does he see you. That'll help a bit. You can ask yourself, What will be the worst case scenario?But, also what if it works out? Good Luck!
Ouch! Ah well, just enjoy the fantasy until he dates someone else.
No use making a move if he isn’t interested BUT if you aren’t sure it’s better to just try the straightforward “I like you” approach. I would rather bomb, say “Ah well, being brave was a fail” and know than have years of regret for not even trying