regret moving out
Earlier this year my friend and I decided to move in together. 7 months later I regret ever doing so. I just don't understand her mentality. She prioritizes the little things that makes her happy in life while de-prioritizing the things that should be important. Such as rent. Or having a car.
Ever since her car got repossessed, I've been obligated to drive her around during my free time. This includes sending her to work and picking her up from work.
I just don't understand what we're doing anymore. Why are we living like this. Are we living together or am I a live-in maid?
She and I wanted to move out to be more independent. We can't afford to live on our own (this economy killing me istg) which is why we decided the next best thing was to be housemates and split bills. But with how everything has been going, she is not independent at all.
Even though we're friends, I just feel it isn't my problem to be responsible for her. She should have thought things out more carefully before suggesting we move in together. She should have known she wouldn't be able to pay the rent AND pay her car bills. It's like she acted on impulse now I gotta pay the price with her.
And me too. I'm not faultless I admit. I should have known better than to trust her when the first red flag was she asked me to cover her portion of the deposit fee and first months rent in order for us to secure the apartment in our names. I shouldn't have covered for her. I should have said no, because if she wasn't responsible enough to have money to secure the place, why did I think she would be responsible enough to have money to pay for the place once we actually start living there. She is living beyond her means, I should have seen this coming. I should have trusted my gut when it started feeling all queasy the moment she asked me to cover. I was stupid. I was naive. I assumed we would both be able to do our part and that hasn't been the case. But I've learned my lesson.
I feel like living on our own shouldn't be this difficult? I just don't understand why she insists on making her life so hard.
It's exhausting, it's disappointing. I'm done. I'm planning to move back home when the lease ends. Just 2 and half more months before the lease reweal comes. I'm going to smack that with a big NOPE.
Looks like it’s true that living together ruins friendships, I hear it happens all the time. In this case your friend is just a leech and a piece of shit. Get away from her ASAP. I mean do whatever it takes, if possible throw her out and find a new roommate, ignore that leech and stop giving her your time and money, tf.
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15 09,2023
I feel sad about your friendship, I mean you must be so close to actually moved out together. I hope you guys can reconcile in the future.
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15 09,2023
So sorry to hear this! Yeah, living with someone can really be that difficult, especially if they aren’t conscientious. I think lots of us find out the hard way that moving out with a friend can destroy a friendship. It’s where you finally get the eye opening realisation that your core personality traits are too different and your friend is mor......
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15 09,2023