For me I have a bad habit of self inserting in stories where the FMC is bland/has no personality which leads me to not enjoy the story. I cant self insert in yaoi cus im not a guy, so I can read the series at face value even if both MCs are trash/poorly written.
Well I use to read yaoi just for fun ngl, the drama can be so stupid and funny, literally they can be so easy to solve LMAO. But I stopped reading mainly yaoi and moved on to action and reincarnation reply