Is this just me??
I feel like this is just me but all my friends always have crushes but I rarely have them, and probably haven’t had one in maybe 3 years. My friends though have a main one for a year or something like that and mini ones throughout it and I don’t understand
Like I’m totally shallow don’t get me wrong I think physical looks are important and I can look at something and understand they are attractive but I just can’t understand how you could like someone for just their looks? Like i feel no connection to attractive people if I don’t know what their personality is.
Like my friends have crushes on people they never talk to and It just doesn’t make sense to me because I need to know a person before I even like them as a person, so I don’t understand how you could like someone romantically without ever talking to them
It’s not like I’m craving a relationship but it’s not like I would never want it to happen, it’s just that I don’t have crushes ever and I feel like I’m missing out on some experience that everyone is having and it doesn’t make it any better that I feel like I struggle to actually become comfortable around people because I dislike eye contact but I also need to look at people’s faces, especially introverted peoples faces to understand how to react compared to how they react
Sorry for this being so long I just want to know that I’m not the only one that has crushes rarely
"A demiromantic person is someone who only develops romantic feelings for another person when they have a strong emotional connection to them. "
this you?
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12 08,2023
I RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH, my sister has had a crush on so many people and I'm just like "okay"
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12 08,2023
Look into asexuality. dont want to label you but it sounds suspiciously close
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12 08,2023
wow you're...literally me.
my last crush was when i was in junior high, though back then i know the feeling of liking someone because of their looks. as i got older i just don't have that type of feelings anymore, everything you said basically describes me now.
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12 08,2023
It's been a long time since I've actually had a crush on someone too, I can admit they're attractive and talk about how they're hot or about how good their personality is or something to someone else. But I haven't genuinely fallen for someone in like- 4 years and I don't rlly see the need to force myself to try and find one to have a crush on eith......
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12 08,2023
eye candy equals feel good chemical
brain likey when the feel good chemical
eye candy cause? keep looking at eye candy
subsequently the eye candy's other traits add to the flavour
mmm. yum.
rinse and repeat
its less like i actually like the ppl and more like i like the idea of them
thats why i say i have a crush and not that im in love
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12 08,2023
My issue is that from early on, I always realized my ideal type is a 32-45 year old man. I ended up developing this weird mental disconnect where, for example, I would think " Why would I like him? He's like 14" even though I myself was fourteen. That made it so that I haven't really had crushes on anyone.
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12 08,2023
