Incapable of feeling romantic emotions for more than a few months.

So my bf just broke up with me. When he said it honestly I didn’t really feel anything, just gave him a thumbs up and went back to my work. Okay maybe I did feel something...I know that it sounds cruel but maybe I was a bit relived?Our personalities and interests all matched really well, it’s just, after the first 5months of being together I stopped really feeling anything romantically towards him. We’ve been together 3 years now and most days feel like an uphill battle. He has mental health issues and I feel like overtime I’ve turned into more of a mother figure than a significant other, and I’m so tired, maybe that’s why I didn’t really feel much when he suggested breaking up? Anyways I’m just a bit confused, was I actually in love to start with or was it lust? Maybe I just couldn’t bring myself to feel things romantically really cuz I was always too busy caring for him. I’m hoping that it was that. My previous relationship fizzled out similarly and I wasn’t a carer in that scenario so I’m a bit scared that I’m incapable of actually loving someone as more than a family member or a friend(which I still consider my, I guess, recent ex to be).

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LinaLauLiu 14 02,2020

I also feel the same way as you. When I broke up with my previous bf, I was sad, but I wasn't sobbing or crying. I mean, I never cry or anything for the other exes as well, but the last one was literally the one that I though serious and very committed relationship. I am 26 and many people think that I will settle down with him. I thought so as wel...... reply

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Strawberryliro 13 02,2020

I'd like to think that in any relationship there was definitely love. I think we just forget it was there. I dont think your incapable of love. I think that he wasnt your one. Sometimes we meet people that are just meant to pass by. They teach us lessons and leave us. So thst we can improve ourselves and understand how to deal with and love ourselv...... reply

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bluemaple 13 02,2020

Could be aromanticism! You can be completely capable of feeling lust for people or even developing crushes but feeling romantic feelings can be impossible most of the time. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or anything! If you feel like you're happiest on your own and doing your own thing, then you should do that, no need to feel p...... reply

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bananafish27 14 02,2020

Hey. What I've heard from you up to now, sounds like you felt like you had more of the responsibilities of a caretaker than a lover. Did I get that right? In that case, I understand why you might have felt relief when y'all broke up. Maybe that really has something to do with the feelings that faded away. Or maybe not. Just some questions for you t...... reply

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