Internalized homophobia sucks.

This is very hard for me to admit but I have internalized homophobia. I'm a cis gay man and it has always been hard to accept my sexuality but after five years of misery, I finally came in terms with it. I love myself but there are times I think "What if I am actually a sinner?" "I should be with a woman not with a man, this is wrong" "Pedophilia is a mental disorder but so was homosexuality. Am I in the wrong here?". It is so scary, am I a bad person? I just want to love. What if I'm living my life wrong? Is marrying a woman and having kids the right way to live? I'm so sorry for this rant but I cant think of anywhere else to post this. I have seen a lot of queer people in here and I would like your pov.

Tl;dr - Is being gay actually okay or is it just a mental disorder?

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[DELETED] 04 07,2021

Not it's not a mental disorder.. Its perfectly fine to be gay, nothing is wrong about it. So don't be afraid and think its that and this or whatever, its what you are, it's who you are since you've been born. Ignore all those people saying "it's a sin" cause it isn't, and let's not forget everyone has a different god whom they believe to. And fu...... reply

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Mars 04 07,2021

Usually Ignored Fact: Whenever a christian/catholic says "gay is wrong", it's because they think it goes against what god wanted(the adam & eve thing = man & woman in their heads) and therefore say it's goes against the bible's teachings. Meanwhile, god wanted humanity to accept each other and love each other the same as he loves them. So whenever ...... 1 reply

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pansexual ★★★☆★ 04 07,2021

no it's not a mental disorder our boys and hormones change way of our thinking it's not decided from the beginning that you can only love and have sex your opposite gender note:- remember there is lots fish can change their gender and also a type of female lizard which no need to you mate for child I mean it's decided by us that our body and h...... reply

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jing yi 04 07,2021

no no. love between consenting humans is perfectly fine and normal. children/minors CANT CONSENT. pedophilia should not be compared to queerness because of that big difference. pedophilia is a crime and if youre talking religiously a sin. u can be both queer and a pedo but queer = pedophilia is a no. if ur a man you dont need to marry a woman. you ...... reply

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meowmura 04 07,2021

there is no "right way to live" they say its to get married and have children but what if u dont wanna get married? what if u dont wanna have children? those ideals were not made with your wants/opinions in mind.. theyre stupid and no one should have to live by them whether straight gay bi trans etc reply

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*Kicks* 04 07,2021

God is a strange conversation. For instance many christians say all gay people go to hell, because the bible or some self proclaimed prophet says so, but they don't talk about the fact that the same books they are quoting also puts things like tattoos, eating pork, eating shrimp, or sculpting an image of god, as equal levels of sin to homosexuality...... reply

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BT_dingO 04 07,2021

I can understand where you are coming from but I never thought internalized homophobia was a thing, to be honest. I question my sexuality when I found myself attracted to one of the girls in my class. She was mysterious to me and I was curious about her and with time I wanted to get to know her, be friends with her and somehow protect her cause she...... reply

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Inferno 07 07,2021

Prophets lie for money and there's no proof god exists. If god did exist, why would they give us the gift of free will if we can't use it. And no, homosexuality is not a mental disorder. You're absolutely beautiful and valid. Anyway, have some gay. reply

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