Internalized homophobia sucks.

This is very hard for me to admit but I have internalized homophobia. I'm a cis gay man and it has always been hard to accept my sexuality but after five years of misery, I finally came in terms with it. I love myself but there are times I think "What if I am actually a sinner?" "I should be with a woman not with a man, this is wrong" "Pedophilia is a mental disorder but so was homosexuality. Am I in the wrong here?". It is so scary, am I a bad person? I just want to love. What if I'm living my life wrong? Is marrying a woman and having kids the right way to live? I'm so sorry for this rant but I cant think of anywhere else to post this. I have seen a lot of queer people in here and I would like your pov.

Tl;dr - Is being gay actually okay or is it just a mental disorder?

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افسر پلیس 04 07,2021

bruh no where in the bible does it say IF UR GAY I HATE U so u good. 4 reply

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um- 04 07,2021

No being gay is not a mental disorder at all, it was classified as one because we weren't the same as them. Mental disorders either harm you or others, just like how depression harms you, and pedophillia harms others, being gay harms literally no one. No offense, but what you said is honestly really disgusting comparing pedophiles to gay people whe...... reply

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Bruh 04 07,2021

Dude first of all let's not compare pedophilia to homosexuality , there's a HUGE difference between two consenting ADULTS having sex that happen to be the same gender and a minor getting raped by an adult. A lot of homophobes use this fcking argument and it's stupid as fck don't fall into that trap. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being attr...... 1 reply

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Pedophilia has devastating consequences it has predators and victims. Does you being gay lead to devastating consequences for anybody ? Fuck no. But not being who you are , not bein able to embrace your sexuality, not being able to permit yourself to love freely without doubting your sanity indeed has devastating consequences for you ,your mental h...... reply

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Noah 04 07,2021

Thanks everyone. I feel better now. I'm sorry for comparing pedophilia with homosexuality. reply

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aphrodite's wife 04 07,2021

I'm a fellow homosexual here and no, you are not a sinner for being gay. Loving someone of the same gender is not harming anyone. Sins are considered sins because they harm you or someone else but homosexuality doesn't. Therefore, it isn't one. Most gay people go or have gone through internalized homophobia, it is nothing to be ashamed of. I'm here...... reply

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Cestelle 04 07,2021

I mean, the religion that's known the world over for to this day having pedophile problems among its adherents probably shouldn't be looked to for any sort of moral authority on any matter about anything ever. So I don't really see how whether or not you're considered a "sinner" is remotely important in regards to the validity of who you are as a p...... reply

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hotpickle 04 07,2021

YOU ARE NOT A SINNER... NOT AT ALLLLLL... im a queer born into a catholic household so listen to this... i have this book(youcat) with like uk stuff that the previous pope (Pope Benedict XVI) had said in the subject of homosexuality along with other bishops ofc... and he said and i quote "the church believes that, in the order of creation, man ...... reply

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