opinions by a queer person
this is gonna be a long read so dont:
- say this is a manga site (this literally wasnt the point of me writing this)
- argue back without any backing other than your opinion and that its 'right.'
- all youtube or other links are trusted sources/videos by queer people.
- if ur straight/cis you might not understand any of this so either research abt it or move on.
1. your favorites did performative queerness. examples are some emo bands, kpop groups, and pop artists. (
https://youtu.be/3umRD7SOUNw &
https://online.ucpress.edu/jpms/article/33/1/121/116315/Is-stage-gay-queerbaiting-The-politics-of)
also tiktok is a big perpetuator of this??? literally i remember just last year there was some straight guy that came out as bisexual and literally used PAINTING HIS NAILS as a hint to that. but obviously that didnt last long and he was like 'no im straight.' fyi this is the same guy that cosplayed as sangwoo. (
https://youtu.be/bJ59Ao5x25E)
i see this on the forum too like theres cis straight women on here that wants to be gay men??? just back the fuck off please.
2. you dont get gender. female and male are BIOLOGICAL SEXES. remember gender is what you think abt yourself in your head. man/boy or woman/girl is what youre assigned at birth. feminine, masculine, and androgyny is gender expression and usually what you first think about different sexualities because of stereotypes. also i dont get people who only identify as non-binary since thats an umbrella term??? (
https://www.geneseo.edu/lgbtq/gender-identity)
3. the mogai sexualities like pansexual, omnisexual and demisexual dont really make sense and has no real need for them to exist. the mogai definitions are also way too in the box like how would somebody even know if theyre only attracted to two genders or more?? just let someone explore how they are instead of just having them go by textbook definitions written by other people/person whos experience might been COMPLETELY different. besides hetero and cis people make up the majority of the earth and youll probably have to date online to meet a more diverse group of people. i do think that specific terms arent bad though because different people can find them comforting. (
https://youtu.be/XiuHsugRgNQ &
https://youtu.be/DoZFZto6Wqg)
4. yaoi is just east asian gay fanfiction written by straight cis women. shounen ai is also the same because of literally heteronormative that shit is. literally change the more timid partner into a woman and itd be any other straight shoujo. this is pretty obviously because theyve only experienced straight romance/sex. like no your ass CANT libricate itself... the only thing that ive ever found relatable in these supposedly 'queer works' is that theyre afraid of being outed as a gay (in some stories). also like just please the SMUT ong its the covered all of the seven sins.
5. straight cis saviors please just erase yourself off this forum. IM LITERALLY BEGGING YOUUU. just listen to what the actual marginalized group thats harmed by this shit has to say.
anyways thats all i have to say for now and heres the link to my profile:
https://www.mangago.me/home/people/510045/ if you want to block.